Mat leave

When did you go on Mat leave? Me and my fiancé have talked and I am going to be a stay at home mom, possibly until baby goes to school or maybe even while she’s in school. So if you were planning to be a stay at home mom, when did you begin mat leave. I have been having a really hard time at work. And I’m just itching to begin mat it’s getting really hard. I could start now if I wanted I’m just wondering if that is a good choice or not.

Advice please

I am new to being a stay at home mom and ever since I made the change my 3 year old son will not sleep. When I can get him to sleep it’s for maybe 1-2 hours at a time and he has to be right next to me. If I’m not next to him he screams at the top of his lungs and it kills me. With that being said I’ve tried everything I’ve read on other sites (making sure he’s in his bed, staying with him until he falls asleep, running him all day with no nap, etc.) and talked to his pediatrician ( who said he’s fine and just adjusting to the new routine of me being home). For some background i recently left my job where I worked 80+ hours a week and had done so ever since before my son was born, however now I am in the last trimester of my second pregnancy so thought it was time to step back and enjoy my family. I’m just feeling so exhausted and defeated because I’m kinda on my own, my husband works nights so he sleeps almost all day and wakes up a couple (2-3) hours before he has to leave for work/ my sons bedtime. Just looking for some advice on what to do to help my baby get some rest because he’s miserable and maybe a little reassurance that it will get better because right now all I wanna do is breakdown and cry. Thank you in advance.

Discouraged. Looking for support

Just feeling discouraged. I’m a SAHM to a 2.5year old and 1 year old. I’m depressed. Hate my life. Anxiety’s through the roof. I see a therapist. I have one night off a week (husband takes the kids), I’m in a church group and have mom friends. I take my kids to events, open gyms, the library, and my daughter is in dance etc. I feel like I’ve been TRYING and doing the right things for months now. But im still depressed, anxious, isolated. I need an identity outside idk my kids. I need to do something I love. My husband works and is pretty checked out. He loads the dishes and takes out the trash. But won’t gather the trash around the house or wash any dishes that don’t fit in the dishwasher. I do everything else around the house, the cooking, bills, budget, grocery shopping, etc. It’s too much. I have had SEVERAL conversations with my husband. He’s stuck in this “bachelor” mindset. It’s all about him and me and the kids are chopped liver. He used to come and be present with the kids. But now he’s so checked out. I can’t get him to help me with anything unless I threaten to leave him or tell him I’m going to KMS… I don’t use those things to manipulate him. They rarely come up. But once I say one of those things he kicks into gear for a day or two then he stops. Last night I asked him to put a load of laundry in. The load was in a basket next to the washer. I woke up this morning… he told me he didn’t do put a load in cause the DRYER was running. Some bullshit answer. Anyway… he’s always told me I can go back to work. So I told him I want to go back this fall. He said I can go part time cause he doesn’t wNt the kids in full time daycare… :( I don’t want to go part time. And I don’t get any money to spend for eating out or stuff to do with the kids. But he eats out any time he wants at work even if he had lunch that day. Or when he takes the kids out he takes them for lunch and dessert and whatever else. Idk guys. I guess I’m just looking for validation. Like am I expecting too much? I’m so tired. And tired of his bullshit :(

Kindergarten homeschooling

Husband and I have decided to homeschool our eldest child who is supposed to be starting kindergarten this fall. We both made this decision but I know I will likely be taking on the majority of the work when it comes to teaching our daughter since I am a SAHM and hubby works long hours. We have a toddler and a 9m old baby as well. I also babysit 2 toddlers M-F. I know I’m going to be juggling a lot and I’m mainly looking for advice from other homeschool moms. Tips for kindergarteners? Best curriculums? I am leaning towards the good and the beautiful as of right now. Advice for homeschooling with littles? Thanks in advance!!

Suggestions please

My daughter is 3 and will be 4 in April. She constantly gets up during the night. Almost every single night. Some nights she does good and she’ll only get up to use the bathroom and maybe once more because of a dream but then will go right back to sleep. Some nights it’s takes an hour or two for her to finally fall asleep. Some nights she goes to sleep in a fair amount of time but then is up all throughout the night. I do well with keeping her bedtime consistent. Dinner, bath, then 1 story and in bed by 8. I’ve tried letting her cry it out, but that doesn’t really work plus I have a five month old sleeping in the room with us so when she bursts in the room crying she wakes him up. I have tried sitting by her bedside patting or rubbing her back until she falls asleep, which works some nights and then doesn’t work other nights and I’m stuck patting her back for an hour or more. I’ve tried putting her in bed, sitting by her bed for about ten minutes and then saying “Ok I’ll come back to check on you in a few minutes” and then I’ll go do something come back in 10 or 15 minutes or so and if she still isn’t sleep I’ll repeat the process, sit with her a few minutes, tell her I’ll be back etc etc. once again this works sometimes and then sometimes it doesn’t. She wants to sleep in the bed with us and I rarely give in but sometimes I’m too exhausted to put her back into her bed. I’m so tired of being exhausted and cranky because I also get up three time a night to nurse my baby. If anyone had any suggestions please. Maybe I’m doing something wrong maybe I’m missing something?

Husband rarely helps

My husband rarely helps with the kids. I’m the one who feeds them, gets them ready for the day, gets them ready for bed, goes to appts with them,etc. He puts my son (18 months to bed) & sometimes helps with meal time, that’s it. The times he is with the kids which is rarely, he’ll be yelling at them or is completely short with them. My other child (6 years old) has autism & he is not patient with her at all. He also isn’t gentle with her at all. Since my son was born, he would yell at him every time he cried.I’ve talked to him about being patient with the kids & being gentle. I would also point out to him that one child has autism & one child is a baby. He would just be completely upset & shrug it off. I’m so tired of his lack of help & his attitude when he is with the kids. It’s like he hates them. He never seeks to spend time with them. I’ve even given him ideas of how to communicate/play with them. He doesn’t listen to me…

Hawaii

My husband & I got married in 2013. We’ve never been to Hawaii together. Last time I went to Hawaii I was a child (8 y/o). My husband went to Hawaii about a year or two before we got married. He kept raving about all the places he wanted to bring me to when we would go someday. In 2020 my husband promised our family he would take us to Hawaii as soon as my daughter would wear a mask. Well… She finally wore one in August of 2020. It’s 2023 & we still haven’t gone. It just hurts because we were promised a trip & 3 years later we still haven’t gone. I don’t care what I sound like to you guys. I just needed to let this out.

Husband works to much

I am a SAHM. My husband works from 8-8 & when he comes home he brings work to do. And then after a tiring day with the kids he expects me to put out.

Valentine’s Day

My husband told me to reserve 2/14 to come & clean his office… Alexa, play “Flowers” by Miley Cyrus.

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No breaks for mamas

It has been non stop for me since thanksgiving. Every day is busy for me as I am a stay at home mom. I have 2 littles (one has autism) ages 6 years old & 18 months. We also have a fur baby, a male Maltese. They all keep me busy. I’m sure to feed them a full 3 meals a day along with snacks in between. I also homeschool my 6 year old. We have speech & ABA therapy for autism 3 times a week. I am also very active at my church where I teach a morning class for highschool girls & an evening class for elementary aged kids. I also work with the babies in our nursery once a month & I sing in the choir weekly. Once in a while the busyness will catch up on me & I’ll feel I need a break & I’ll lounge around for maybe one day a month (usually right before my period comes cause I feel extra tired then)..: well tonight was one of those nights & my husband told me to get up. He said it’s not fair that I got to nap & he didn’t (today was his day off… the only day he is able to spend with the kids & the only day I can catch a breather). He told me to get up & get things done. Im assuming he meant clean the house. I thought it was so rude & insensitive of him. Just needed to let this off my chest… Im just so upset.

To SAHM or not to SAHM.. help!!!

Has anyone left a decent job that they liked and paid pretty well to stay home with their babies?? How do you like being a SAHM? Do you regret it? I’ve always wanted to be a sahm but feel stuck since I have a good job. It’s hard to make that final decision and put in my notice at work… fortunately, we can live off my husbands income but it will be tight. I have a 15 month and a baby on the way. We are sick all the time right now because of her current childcare and I am over it. Plus I will have to quit when baby #2 is born in June. Part of me wants to do it now but I’m just afraid to make that decision.

I am not stay home mom

My step daughter she 5 years old. Ever since she was 3 she been getting uti. This time back to back uti. Me n my husband is trying everything but really can't say the same as my step daughter mother. Is there anything else we can do for her .

Lazy husband

I am so livid at my husband. We have 3 beautiful boys. The last being 14 weeks old. He works over nights. So on his random day off he sleeps all day and is awake all night. He does little to nothing most days anyhow but I would think he would do something to help while he's awake while no one else is. I wake up to do night feeding for baby, wake up with kids if they wake up. I wake up to dishes in the sink, the house worse then how I left it. Nothing done. Am I wrong for expecting him to do anything other than watch TV and play with himself???? I am so pissed off. I've had this conversation with him so many times and it's honestly like he ignores me. He never addresses it, never answers, he might do a load of laundry after I lose it. I am so worn out doing every ounce of parenting that at least he could pick up somethings. After all these years I feel like I don't like him anymore. I don't feel anything but pure dislike. Idk how to make him understand that I need some help. The only thing he will say is "you can't handle 3 kids by yourself, I get it" and I feel like that is a jab at me. Cause I can handle all 3 kids and 3 dogs just fine. It's EVERYTHING on me all the time that I am struggling with. I have no one to talk to about this. I have no family or friends.. I feel so tired and angry all the damn time..

Need to vent

In January I caught my partner texting someone else 😭 tell her how he just can’t get over how beautiful she is. We’ve been trying to work it out mainly because we have 2 kids together, but last night at bedtime I was joking with our daughter telling her my face will brake the camera if she takes pictures of me. He blurts out “well we both know that if you WERE attractive, you wouldn’t be with me”☹️ I didn’t know how to respond so I played it off and agreed. After a while he apologized and said it was supposed to be a complement, but yet again I just blew it and said “we both know I’m not attractive and should never be in front of the camera!” Is there a compliment in what he said and I’m just being dramatic? Because right now, I kinda feel like putting a bag over my head and never leaving the house again.

Need a new bestie!

I recently lost my childhood best friend to her toxic relationship that I didn’t want my kids to be around. So now I’m trying to branch out and meet ladies who can relate to me. If you have older children, that’s even better! I seriously need a friend to become close with, so don’t be scared to reply

If your partner WORKS FROM HOME ...

I might get to stay home for a few years but my husband works from home. I’m worried he will not enjoy the baby being home all the time. If your partner works from home, how is it going with a small child at home ? Obviously his work is important for our family but I also want to be able to stay home. I don’t want to lose this opportunity just because he needs a break from baby. Any thoughts ?

New stay at home mom soon

So my fiancée and I talked about me being a stay at home mom a few months back and the subject came up again. He wants to work 2 jobs that pays very well and we don’t have a lot of bills. We have a 4 year old and I wanted to put my 2 week notice in until the school semester in fall and then return to work when he starts kindergarten. Now it’s not long term just until he gets into school where we don’t have to pay a weekly fee. I don’t know what it’s like and looking for advice on how to deal with being home instead of working outside the home.

Mum friends

I would like to make friends with mums on this app! I’m a mum of two and Im based in Australia. Would be nice to chat and spare some time!