Having sex after giving birth

Hello I wanted to know after giving birth by C-Section after how many weeks / months can I have sex please ? Thank you😊

Grief journey 💔

Hi mamas. My son sadly passed away December 30th, 2024. He was 5 weeks old. I miss him so much and just wish i could watch him grow and turn into his own little person. I've been feeling really depressed without him here. Anyone have babies that were born around November 20th (his birthday) and would want to share pictures, updates, any fun little details about your little ones and how they're growing and developing?Although I can't have my son here physically, seeing other babies, watching them grow and thrive and knowing that if he was here right now that's what he would be doing just brings me comfort and peace. Ive attached pictures of my beautiful son Kenai Ezra🕊️🤍

How do I comfort my child in this situation?

We are getting ready to move out of my toxic verbally abusive moms house and to a different state(she wanted us to live here to help her since she is older now). 5 hours away. My 4 year old constantly says he doesn’t want a new house and leave grandma but I know it’s best for us. He loves her & she treats him well, but She has turned him against me as well. I feel super guilty and sad though, bc his dad is gone and this is his only close family member. i’ve tried to work with her so many years but she doesn’t care at all to treat me like a human, now she tries to use my child against me which I will not tolerate, he has started saying ugly things to me then will run to her when I try to correct it & tell him that is not nice, and she will threaten me.She threatens to contact my abusive ex husband if I even leave the house, She also recently made me lose my job by bringing drama. She doesn’t want me to work. I have a new job in the new state , this is a small town with nothing, no jobs and a horrible school, plus my brother the only non toxic family member lives there so we will be near him. I was suppose to move January but delayed it due to feeling guilty, next month I have to follow through. I have no village here anyway UPDATE: I tried to talk to my brother about this and he told me I need to stay here with our mom and help her, I told him he could come help her just as well, so I won’t be including him in our plans anymore

Birthday help!!!

I have 3 boys who’s birthdays are so close together like june 19 July 4th and 6th but I’m having problems deciding what to do as my kids are 4,3,and turning 1 I want something simple but I also want something special for my almost 1 yr old and one theme because I only want to do 1 party please anyone give me ideas and themes not Spider-Man or Mickey Mousepar

RSV sucks

My whole family was hit. Me and my 2 year old were hit the hardest. My lungs feel so weak and the cough is horrendous.I had my husband take our 2 year old to the hospital. He’s feeling better than me so it made the most sense. My 3 year old went to play at her grandparents house. My 2 year old has a history of respiratory viruses causing low oxygen. He had visible labored breathing and was vomiting up his water/meds. We thought it was the flu but turns out it’s rsv. He’s doing good. Weak, tired, no appetite, oxygen was staying at 88. He’s staying overnight for monitoring. We have to be extra cautious with him since he was a 27 weeker and spent 6m on oxygen. Tomorrow is my husband’s birthday so hopefully they will be discharged first thing in the morning. Hopefully we all feel better too.

I feel numb

How would.you feel if your husband said.that he hates his life, he wants to leave. He says our 20 months old son ruined our life bc.he doesnt sleep well anymore. Tonight he kept saying i would take him back if i could and left the house angry. This isnt the first time this has happened.

Exhausted.

We suspect my 4 year old son is on the spectrum and also has ADHD. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant with our second and today i am just having the hardest fricken time with my son. He wont listen at all and ive been resorting to yelling which he still wont listen to. Ive always tried to be a gentle parent but he is just NOT a gentle child. Does anyone else know what I am going through? I finally just broke down crying after going between being half asleep and being frustrated/heart elevated all day from anger and trying to keep it together. I don't know how to manage my son and now we are having another and it just feels so overwhelming. I never wanted to be a bad mom and i feel so guilty. :"(

Daycare behavioral issues

My daughter started a new daycare back in December because her other one was too far to make the distance back and forth comfortably everyday. At the other daycare I feel like the other kids also had their issues so it wasn’t such a big deal if a kid acted out or did something that wasn’t following directions. I mean they’d redirect them or just be like hey don’t do that and try to get them to go along with whatever they’re doing. I also had troubles at daycare when I was younger and my parents would switch me a lot too. It wasn’t until I got a little older that I understood what was going on. However this morning, I saw a picture taken of my daughter and the daycare has this option where they at times takes pictures of the kids but they haven’t really don’t so before? In the picture my daughter was laying on the floor and sometimes she does this thing where she has to lay on the floor and her hands are twisted outwards. Like she can’t stop doing it unless she deems it’s been enough time. I think she’s stimming tbh so it’s something that she can’t stop when she’s in the middle of it. This preschool is a private preschool and should be able to provide more one on one instruction but I just feel like they don’t know how to deal with these issues? The last daycare didn’t really bring up her doing these things or they’d mention it briefly and I assume they’d handle it. What just threw me off was the picture…like why stand there and take a picture to provide proof? Why hasn’t there been pictures of other things they’ve done in the classroom that’s more positive and I get that maybe taking a picture provides evidence of what she’s doing wrong but I’ve yet to see any pictures of any other activities, it’s mostly just blurbs and paragraphs about what activity they plan to do for the day. Maybe I’m overreacting but it just hurt to see her picture taken like that. I mean I’m the only one who can see it but it’s just weird to be the one and only picture I come across is one of her misbehaving and before this no pictures of anything else that’s less negative?

Looking for perspective

Hi all!Not really sure where to post to apologies if it’s in the wrong group. I had to have a medical termination in October due to a missed miscarriage. This would have been my 4th child. I think about them everyday. Myself and my partner haven’t been using protection since but I’ve not fallen pregnant. I’m now starting to wonder if I should even be adding another child. I know I wouldn’t regret it and I’ve always wanted 4 children max however I’m not sure anymore if it’s sensible? Particularly financially. We’d make it work but it would add a lot of pressure. I just don’t want to regret not having another. I was planning on getting my tubes tied after the one I lost in October. If you’ve read on, I guess my question is, has anyone been in the same boat on questioning another child and what did you decide/feel regarding your decision? Thanks ☺️

Eczema and uneven skin tone

Hello everyone,please I need suggestion on how to takecare of my son eczema and skin. I have been to dermatologist several times but till now nothing is working. Please help with any ideas. Thank you

Help baby won’t take a bottle😭

So my baby is 6 months old and I struggle producing enough milk in the beginning and just decided to only give her the breast so my milk supply can increase. The problem is I can’t go anywhere without her now because she won’t take a bottle. Please help.

My preschooler is starting to read. Any tips for precocious preschoolers?

My daughter is turning three in April. She started learning her ABCs at Montessori last year and now they're working on phonics. She sounds out the letters on everything. She can usually figure out the word from there, and with repetition, can tell you about 50% of the words in her favourite book, Snuggle Puppy. If you write the words she knows on a piece of paper, she can tell you what they are (like puppy, mine, fine, love, what)We sit down to read books and she follows along with her finger and sounds out the words. While the pronunciation is off on words she doesn't know, she "reads" a lot. If she has letters like blocks, she arranges them to spell her first name. She knows her alphabet and can arrange blocks to put them all in the correct order. She is starting to write her name but she doesn't quite have the hand-eye coordination for it.I've never seen anything like it. The thing that worries me is how she's fitting in with her peers. My two closest friends have started to notice my daughter is different than their kids, and there is some jealousy there. I'm mindful of making sure the toys we have out when they visit are things our girls all play with, like dolls and Little People. I don't put out books or anything with numbers or letters because I don't want them to feel like I'm showing off. She goes to Montessori and is thriving but I'm aware that not everyone has that advantage. If you have a precocious child, how do you deal with everything that comes along with it?Edit: I'm not bragging here. I'm trying to figure this out. I'm not sure why people are downvoting me and the comments that are helping.Edit: By everything that comes along with it, I mean people always pointing out how different she is. She's not a unicorn. I just wish people would stop making her read to them and asking her "What does this say?". As far as I'm concerned, she's a regular almost 3 year old because she is. Her peers look at her like a regular kid, but I know kids are impressionable and will believe what their parents tell them. Parents are jealous but it's not like I parade my daughter around or make comments about her ability to read. I try to hide it because I don't want her to feel different or like she doesn't belong. I also don't want to make her feel superior because that's obnoxious.

How to single parent

Okay so my daughter got taken by cps and was in foster care. I’ve done everything to get her back and am in the last step of the process to get her back. My mom used to help me with her but now they’re saying I may not be able to use her bc she had her own cps case years ago. My daughter’s dad said he will be homeless soon so I can’t use him to watch her either. I have a job but it’s nights and I’m not sure I make enough to pay rent and daycare. Has anyone been in this situation or have any suggestions? Thanks

Burnt out feels like I’m single parenting

Mom of 3 4 and under. A 4 year old 3 year old and 5 month old. I’m a SAHM and husband works. I do 95% of everything at home. Cleaning, cooking, every single night wake up with the baby, I homeschool my 4 year old. I try to make our snacks and food from scratch when I can. Mind you our house stays almost immaculate because I just can’t stand it dirty so I work really hard fighting to keep it clean. His uniform is almost always washed for him even though he leaves it on the floor and doesn’t even bother putting his clothes in the hamper. My husband will help but I don’t feel like he goes out of his way. For example he’ll help clean up after dinner but he’s always complaining about it or in a bad mood. He’ll fold laundry but not consistently. He does work really hard for our family and picks OT. He’s never said no to something we wanted but I just feel like a single parent most of the time. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells because of his piss poor attitude with me and the kids. He’s always aggravated always makes everyone feel like a burden. Our baby is an awful sleeper. I’m not exaggerating when I say he wakes up 7,8,9+ times a night and I take care of it every night. He hasn’t woken up with him since he was maybe 7 or 8 weeks old. Doesn’t wake up with him on weekends to let me sleep in in for another hour unless I wake him up and ask but who wants to have to ask their partner for support when the partner knows yours struggling. I haven’t had a decent nights sleep in 5 months. I don’t even have time to read a book or take a shower I feel so burnt out and I’ve expressed this and he seems to acknowledge it and then nothing changes. Today we tried to go out for a fun family outing and on the way back baby was screaming in the car seat. He said a smart comment so I said one back bc in the moment of 30 minutes of baby screaming in the car I just couldn’t hold my tongue back. So we get home he immediately goes to change into comfy clothes and goes poop. Meanwhile I have to pee, 3 year old needs to go potty, dog ate something he wasn’t supposed to while we’re gone, baby is upset and I’m trying to get the older 2 lunch. So he comes out 5 minutes later and tries to help get the kids lunch together. I asked him if he washed his hands because he’s bad about not doing it. He said no. I asked him to please wash them because he just touched the kids food. He threw the strawberries down on the counter, poured 10x the amount of soap he needed on his hands passive aggressively and half assed washed his hands. Then he slammed the cabinet shut and starts saying “if this is how you want to play okay!” I don’t even know what else he said I got so mad. Then he says he’s tired of my attitude. I genuinely had no attitude even though I was up literally all night with the baby. I thought we had a good morning minus the spattle in the car until that point. Yesterday, we had to take our car to get new brakes and it was a late appointment. So instead of me staying at the house with the kids I suggested we all go and walk to the restaurant next door while we wait. I had everything done so that when we got back the kids just needed to put their pajamas on and brush teeth. Coffee was set for the next day, dishwasher running, floors done, pajamas laid out. I figured out how to shower and put some makeup on because I wanted to actually look nice for once, had the kids dressed and ready to go when he walked in the door. I mean I did everything so it was seamless when we got home. So he comes home in a bad mood. He changes and I needed to put my shoes on and go pee. He comes back inside all possy because 3 year old wouldn’t let him put himIn car seat. So I grab my shoes and socks go out to the car barefoot, put his seat belt on and just put my shoes on in the car. Then I said something about it and he says “you knew all day we were doing this why didn’t you prepare”it just hurt my feelings so bad because I thought I had set it up so nice so we could enjoy the evening and not be stressed out when we got home. I don’t even know what to do anymore. He’s a good dad and husband but it’s like if he gets aggravated he can’t control his tongue whether it’s me or the kids. I try to do everything for everyone and I get no support. Both of his parents passed away and the only family I have is my mom but she lives and hour away, works full time and just isn’t very nurturing or helpful when it comes to the kids. I guess I’m just venting

Mother in law..

Would it be selfish to keep my daughter away from her gma bc she’s talking shit to me and telling her sons that she wants something bad to happen to me? Would it be selfish bc of personal feelings? Backstory: When I had my daughter October 2023, my husband and I suspected his mom was on drugs, we didn’t let her around our daughter. She denied it but we just knew, especially my husband bc she did drugs and was abusive to him growing up so he knows her behavior. A few months in, she stopped and everything was fine. Fast forward to a year later, she ADMITTED to us that she was doing stuff around that time. So now like almost 2 weeks ago, she’s acting the SAME EXACT WAY the first time around. I’ve been with my husband for 4 1/2 years and she’s only ever acted this way doing drugs. Well I straight up ask her if she’s doing drugs and she just goes BALLISTIC and tells me off, Denying it. She’s calling me names and telling her other son (17) that she wants to beat my ass!!Talking MAD smack about me. She’s been texting my husband on bs to and also is telling him wishing bad shit to happen to me. My husband and I agreed (before she started talking shit) that until she takes a drug test, she’s not to be at our house. Not to be around our daughter. This woman has disrespected me soooo much since I got pregnant and this just topped the cake. I’ve lost all respect for this woman. IF she takes a drug test and is clean, would it be wrong to still keep my daughter away from her bc of this? This lady crossed a frickin line like fr. A part of me thinks it would be wrong bc it would be out of personal feelings but also like why the f you gonna talk to and about your sons wife and granddaughters mom like that? What, all bc I asked if she was on drugs? I, myself is completely done with this woman. I’m cool off it 🙅🏼‍♀️ what do you think?

Opinions?

Tell me if I'm wrong to be annoyed by this. My son was poorly with flu I took him to the doctor, the doctor sends us to hospital to get checked out. I text my husband to let him know what's going on and about a half hour later he messaged to say that his friend who rarely visits is down and he's going out for a drink. I had our two year old with us as well, we were there for six hours and he didn't offer to come get the toddler/ ask if we needed anything bringing. We got home around nine and he came in from the pub well after midnight. He messaged occasionally to see what was happening but I'm still irritated...

Anyone else have a big family?

Hello. Curious if any of you lovely ladies have a large family? I just found out I’m expecting baby #6 which was a big surprise. We thought we were done at 5 but obviously we weren’t. 😅 I had been on birth control since our youngest was 6 weeks old. Started feeling off and decided to take a test, which came up positive so I took 10 more thinking there’s no way. 😅 Turns out, I really am. Anyone else pregnant with #6?

Clear and Watery = Low Sperm Count 🤷‍♀️

This might be a silly question but does clear and watery semen indicate low sperm count? I thought it was supposed to be white 🤷‍♀️ My husband is going to get a sperm analysis done eventually. He does go all the way.

Toddler cries at sneezes

My 18 month old cries when anyone sneezes or blows their nose, like really cries. Anyone else have this? Am hoping he will grow out of it. He also does the same thing with that ripping noise you get off tape.