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Baby movements freaking me out

I just started feeling the baby move a few days ago--I'm sure it's been moving before, but there was so much going on in my GI system that I'm sure I mistook it for gas or vomit. Now it feels like some serious thunking going on in there. It's kind of wigging me out! Like there's something trapped in there trying to get out. I hung up our one set of baby clothes in the living room to remind myself that it will be a cute baby that will wear adorable clothes, but still...anyone else a little freaked by all the banging around in there? 

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Last reply Jun 1, 2015

Sa

Same here, it just feels weird! And since the little alien loves to kick in my bladder specifically, it is actually really uncomfortable at times....

Ugh- the dreaded reason I was scared to have a boy

I officially have a boy fetus which means I'll have to discuss circumcision with my husband and inlaws.  A while ago when I brought it up to my husband he seemed to agree with me.  Now that there is an actual baby foreskin in the picture he seemed unsure.  I feel pretty strongly against it( for my son.... Although I would council against it it is your choice to make that decision for your son and I wouldn't crucify you for it) gah!  This is not something I want to worry about.  

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Last reply Mar 12, 2018

Kr

Hubby is circumcised but we decided not to with our kiddo simply from researching the pros and cons. Information never hurts.

Best day ever!

Hit 20 weeks FINALLY so it's all downhill from here, and brought this little one home!

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Last reply May 26, 2015

Ca

Oh gracious!! I love a puppy with floppy ears! I've got a beagle/blue tick mix and he had ears like that when he was a puppy! 😍😍😍

I didn't feel all that pregnant until the past few days. Now I'm uncontrollably hungry and tired, and my stomach is somewhere near my boobs. And my back hurts. And it's just going to get worse!

I didn't feel all that pregnant until the past few days. Now I'm uncontrollably hungry and tired, and my stomach is somewhere near my boobs. And my back hurts. And it's just going to get worse!
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Last reply May 24, 2015

La

I can't see to trim my bush.  I told my husband he's either going to have to help or the thing is gonna be a jungle by the time this is over.   I think he opted for jungle. His only gets tidied when I push the subject.  

Any astronomy lovers? What's your favorite Galaxy?😋

Any astronomy lovers? What's your favorite Galaxy?😋
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Last reply May 22, 2015

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You guys are awesome.  :)

The critter is on the move. Anyone else feeling it yet?

The critter is on the move. Anyone else feeling it yet?
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Last reply May 18, 2015

T

I don't think I feel anything yet (20 weeks). Doc says that's totally normal, but everyone else seems to be feeling something, which makes me feel so behind. Can't wait to feel some movement!

Books about birth & newborns?

Has anybody read any books that were actually helpful/insightful? I've been pretty unimpressed with most literature on childbirth. I'd love to read something that leaves room for free thought. :)

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Last reply Nov 23, 2016

Ab

Mommy IQ by Rosie Pope is great so far. Part girlfriend's guide but has clear info in they're from doctors and specialists

An ode to lorazepam

Lorezepam..... Oh lorazepam.... How I miss your balm.  You and fetuses don't mix well so I shall have to trudge through meltdowns alone.  At least for me pregnancy emotional outbursts are quick to pass.  10 minutes of crying then I feel ok.  Not sure what I'd do with a full blown anxiety attack. 😳

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Last reply Dec 31, 2015

Cr

Saw this one one day. It made me laugh as I am pregnant with a cold and missing the days of being able to take meds.

Group info

Where can I find info for this group and what it's about? This app really didn't think things through! LOL! All I can see is "free thinking people with re..."

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Last reply Apr 24, 2015

Er

The full title of the group is "free thinking people with reproduction in mind." It was set up to be a group for agnostics, atheists, secular humanists, and any others who identify as "free thinkers". Hope that helps!

Tips on dealing with conservative MIL...or any family?

I was so happy when I found this group! Didn't think there was a group I actually belonged in. Any ways, since all of you I'm sure have to deal with family about religion (or any social matters) with your new baby, any advice? 

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Last reply Aug 26, 2015

Sa

My family is staunchly, piously catholic. My husband's family is apathetic-spiritual, but his grandmother is Southern Baptist. We decided to stay civil while firm with our decision not to baptize our children. They will have name days, learn all religions in their time, and when anyone comments unkindly we'll guide our children to have compassion for those who don't understand. Agree to disagree. My mother likes dousing people with holy water. My husband and I agree it's harmless as long as she uses a squirt gun.

2nd trimester complaints

My tailbone has days where it aches and now today my belly button is a bit sore. If my nipples wore makeup they would need at least 2 shades darker than they did 4 months ago.  It's a really pretty color in my opinion. I finally felt brave enough to ask for some downstairs attention from my hubby and later asked how it was looking.  Lol.  He said things look a bit different.  

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Last reply Nov 9, 2015

Mo

Haha!I had terrible tailbone pain during my pregnancy. My midwife told me to use a doughnut pillow for sitting… How embarrassing in my office! People thought I had hemorrhoids, I'm sure. 

Finally better!!!!

It has been over a week since ive had to take any medicine!!!! Still throw up occasionally but its a million times better!!!! Finally can eat meals that consist of more than crackers!!!! Im 13 weeks 4 days, had to "redo" a week i guess the secind scan was still behind so they changed my due date to oct 16

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Last reply Apr 15, 2015

Sa

Happy for you! Now the fun bit starts :)

I would think....

Something this big wiggling and moving around in my uterus would be obviously felt. I know it can take as long as 20+ weeks to feel it. I am impatient.  I borrowed a stethoscope to maybe hear movement but all I hear is digestion.  I did pass gas and that was very loud with a stethoscope.  No wonder they say that can startle a fetus in utero.   Lol.  

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Last reply Apr 18, 2015

La

At 14 weeks 5 days I'm pretty sure I felt the critter move.  I was listening with the stethoscope sitting very still laying out in a recliner and I heard and felt what was like very gentle pop corn popping.  It wasn't gas bubbles.  If I hadn't heard the sounds I would have missed the movement I think.  

Your other babies!

Can we share pics of our other babies?This is The Princess Brandon Dubinsky Wobbles. She is seven. She likes to play fetch and to drool when she's happy. I cant tell if she's excited about the baby, because she's just a cat and she won't use her words. 

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Last reply Oct 21, 2015

Br

Sideway & Aldrin 💜🐀🐀

Introduction

Hi, ladies. I'm a long-time lurker, and I figured I should introduce myself.First time mom, due in September. 19 weeks this Sunday. Begrudging user of acronyms. Mamma to two kitties. Married a little over a year. I'm also 35, and reminded of my age everytime I see my doctor or walk into a medical facility. I never know how to end these things.

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Last reply Apr 10, 2015

Li

Hello! Acronyms are tough. It really became clear to me that my community (West Philly, where the non-gender-conforming anarchist hippie bicycle repair co op worker is king/queen/whatever) is not the American norm recently because of acronyms. For me, the first thing I think of when presented with FTM is soooo not First Time Mom. For a hot second I thought there were a WHOLE BUNCH of trans men on here. That is not the case, turns out.

Baby names

What names are you mulling around in your heads?

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Last reply Nov 5, 2017

Je

Theodore, Wade, Cecilia (cece for short), Caroline, Marlo, Zara or Zarin

ARGH!!

In the October group, a woman posted about deciding to terminate her pregnancy after getting the results of her genetic testing. She is asking for support/what she should expect from the procedure. Most of the comments are really very supportive, but one commenter had to add her two cents by saying "Do you believe in miracles? Don't give up hope!"I am just so enraged by this comment because I'm sure it was a very difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy, and if I had to make that decision and someone told me there was a chance for hope, it would send me into a tailspin! I really want to comment that this commenter isn't being helpful. Rather than start an internet flame war, however, I'm venting my frustration here. Thanks for listening!

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Last reply Apr 9, 2015

Ai

That is very frustrating. Especially considering some of those genetic tests are VERY accurate (fetal DNA ones). Also, like you mentioned, it was obviously not an easy decision for her and the last thing you need is someone judging and making it more difficult. Now if it was the typical quad screen that came up as an increased risk, then I think it's fine to tell her it might not be accurate (I would certainly want to verify by cvs or amnio before terminating) and I've heard of plenty of these being wrong. Mine just came back as a 1:71 risk for Down's syndrome but I also had a more reliable fetal DNA test done that was normal, so high risk does not mean positive. 

We finally announced!!

Ive always called my husband punkin so our baby comin in october makes it work even better! The picture is from our 12 week hiking trip, i love the look on my hunnys face :)

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Last reply Apr 6, 2015

Still sick :(((

I am offically in my second trimester!!!! And still horribly sick! I have just come to except i am going to throw up no matter what i do! It has not gotten any better.... i would almost say worse.... the dr never answers the phone for me to ask what to do and ive now lost about 8 pounds total and worried fetus isnt getting what it needs i just give up! Fetus is deffinity going to be an only child!! Lol

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Last reply Jun 30, 2015

Ca

I was about 19 weeks the last time I was sick. I lost 15 pounds my first trimester. I won't guarantee you will get better, but I thought that I was going to just wither away! I finally feel like myself-ish again! Good luck Mama!

Happy zombie Jesus day! Or Eostra. You pregnant ladies you.

For myself and those of you that have to go to religious family members houses today STAY STRONG!  And polite.  We need our family even if we don't agree with them.  ( I'm not preaching so much as giving myself an encouraging talk). Good luck today!!

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Last reply Apr 29, 2016

Fa

This made my day.