HELP! Adding a 🦄 to your relationship?

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So I'm bisexual and my hubby and I have been talking for months about finding a girl to add to our relationship. He wasn't very sexually experienced before we got married and we'd like to try new things together before we're too old! We browsed Tinder and accidentally found a friend of ours looking to be a third. The three of us talked, got really excited about the prospect and we hooked up one night. It was great and hot and we all loved it, and even discussed having one on one time with her.

Now that the newly complicated relationship is continuing though, I'm having a lot of trouble handling it. I don't want to ruin the friendship between any of us, or my marriage, but I'm not sure what to do. Sometimes I'm really into it, not jealous at all, and would love nothing more than for our threesome to be a permanent thing. But other times I can't stand to think of either him or myself being with another person. He and I have talked about ending it, but part of me really doesn't want that. I feel so shitty because of my fickle feelings.

Tonight is his first real date with her and I am trying so hard not to beg him to come home and call off the whole thing. What do I do??

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I'm so lost why y'all are even doing this and the only thing I can think of is wtf? I would beat a girl over my husband. Like WWE type shiz. Just my opinion. 😐

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If there's any doubt at all, then you need to call this whole thing off before your marriage is in jeopardy.

I wouldn't care so much about the possibility of ruining a friendship as I would be ruining my marriage.

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You shouldn't be sharing your husband with anyone. Or sharing yourself for that matter.

Dive into each other and try new things just you and him.

How are you going to feel if he develops feelings for her?

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Smh... Why get married if you still want to sleep with other people?! Marriage is a  sacred Union between two people. I cud NEVER share my man/husband and he'd NEVER do the same...

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Adding a third can mean whatever you want it to and though to some couples that means solo dates, for most it does not. The parameters and boundaries should be whatever you're both comfortable with and you're allowed to feel differently and change them once you've made them. It sounds like maybe you're okay with sex with other people but are more uncomfortable when it comes to the possibility of developing feelings, which is understandable and fair. Discuss this with your husband and decide how to move forward and then explain your decision to your friend as well. If she's a good friend she will understand and hopefully you can all move on in the direction you want to.

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I TOTALLY understand where you are.  In my perfect world, I would have a wife and a husband.  We've done the threesome thing a bunch and my husband has done a few things solo.  Sadly, it's REALLY hard to find a girl that is "the one".  It's hard enough to find a normal spouse so finding an extra girl to fit the perfect mold for both of you is close to impossible.  If you're not feeling it, she might just not be the one.  Let him do things without you and see if you can handle it and how you feel.  If you're excited for him to be with someone else without you then I think another girl could work, but if it makes you uncomfortable then I would stick to just having random threesome.  Good luck!  (I feel bad for the people that don't understand this because it really is empowering to be able to trust and love your spouse to that extent.  My marriage has only grown from our expierences.)

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I understand this. The feelings you have are normal. Alot of people will think you are crazy for "sharing" but to each their own. It sounds like you guys are on the younger side and that may be causing some insecurities and of course you don't want him to be more into her than you. Especially if he hasn't been around much. But you jumped in already be open with your feelings to your husband. 
My husband and myself experienced 3 somes before we got together so we both knew it's not always peachy king and have talked of doing the same but are not in a rush to do it either. If it were me I would tell him y'all should take a set back, hang out with her maybe engage in sexual play if it happens naturally but as a couple not one on one. One on one to me is more like an open marriage, which is great if that's what both people want but I find it is usually older couples whom can do that successfully or the not very serious ones.
You also have to consider that one of you may decide that you got married to soon then have to deal with that. Which if that is the case I think that would have happened anyways . Just remember for both of you to try and be respectful and not hide anything behind eachother back.

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just straight up weird

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I'm not going to judge you on what you are doing but I seriously think that if any part of you doesn't want to be in a 3 way relationship you need to end it because it could seriously hurt your relationship with your husband.

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I can kinda see the just sex part..but a date?...end it!...just say you just wanted threesom sex a couple times and that's it. You should be up front with that at the beginning of any threesom just to be safe.You are perfectly able to still say ok that was really fun! Now let's just take a break for a bit. Its ok to say that.

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