Birds and bees...HELP!

I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 22. I love him. He's so sweet and caring and we have a TON in common. I love him so much it hurts. We have sex and it's pretty good. I love having sex with him. The problem comes when things other than actual sex pops up. He's more than happy for me to jack him off or give him multiple blow jobs. But when it comes to me... Not so much. He's fingered me, but when he does, it's like he's disgusted. He will pull his fingers away unexpectedly and ask if I'm done. I say yes because he sounds so grossed out and I don't want him to feel that way. We usually have the tv on when we do stuff so his roommate can't hear us in the next room, which is fine, but sometimes he will completely stop fingering to watch whatever's on the tv. It makes me feel like I'm not being paid attention to. Like he'd rather watch tv than give me his full attention. When it comes to going down on me, all he'll say is that he's never done that before. I don't get the big deal. He was the first blow job I gave, what's the difference? I don't ask him to do it for me because he'll feel like he has to, and I don't want that. I want him to WANT to pleasure me, not feel obligated to. I want to pleasure him, so why isn't it going both ways? So how can I bring it up/discuss how I feel with him without it becoming a confrontation or a fight?