Unhappy and Unsure..

So last Sept I got married, my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years in June, and our 1 year marriage anniversary in Sept. He also joined the Navy last May, even though I had asked him not too. I just never saw myself as a military wife & ever since, I had given up everything so that I can be there to support him. We never got to go on an anniversary & when I asked to take one in Dec, he said no cause he wanted to see the Family. He said we would go some where this summer to celebrate my 21st birthday and our anniversary early since he'll be in school till Dec. but as it turns out, he isn't able to do anything this summer and I'm actually quite upset. Not because I'm not going any where, but because I had to celebrated my birthday in the airport last year with him when he graduated from boot camp & almost forgot to wish me a happy birthday till I reminded him. Every birthday I celebrate with him, I made sure it was fantastic. I moved to a whole new state, work 6 days a week, 10 hour days and I've yet to do anything that makes me happy. I'm also not able to go school cause his orders are constantly changing, he wants me to wait to make sure I finish. When I express my feelings to him, he tells me I sound retarded. I'm starting to get more and more bitter day by day. I don't think I'm cut out for this kind of life style and he doesn't make it any easier.. I really just want to give up..