Relationship advice

My man and I didn't have a good day today what so ever. We did at first but it slowly went down hill. We fought all day around the basis of what "I don't do for him" and what "he does for me I don't do for him" I'm trying to see his point of view but it's hard because I'm Fucking stubborn and hard headed (so is he) what can him and I do to prevent these types of situations ? I want to have a long happy relationship (we've been together for almost 3 years)