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So me and my husband have been married for 6yrs the past year I was convinced he was cheating but he never told me the truth this past year... The same day I found out I was pregnant I finally found out the truth that he cheated and has a four month old daughter which is his first child, what hurts the most is I've had three miscarriages prior to this knowledge and now I'm about four months and he's says he wants to work things out. I hate him most days and then some days I still love him but the hate seems to be stronger, he says I'm being wishy washy but how am I suppose to feel??? Should I work it out or move on cuz I don't trust him as far as I can throw him.... PS didn't really know where to post this....

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Hell NO! That man does not deserve your time. He was out cheating while you were recuperating from multiple miscarriages? I'm so happy for you and your pregnancy, but he doesn't deserve you.

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In my eyes, that's so unforgivable......... 
I would have cut him out of my life right then and there. I'm not telling you what to do, but I'D leave his ass. F*** working things out. Coparenting is different. But trying to 'work things out between you guys' I'd laugh in his face and be like you should have thought of that WAY before.

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There is some books I would recommend to you. You can decide what to do afterwards. It really helped me make some VERY hard decisions concerning some of my relationships and with my husband.

These two really helped me gain perspective on my marriage and my life. I know things are hard right now, and I'm not going to tell you that you should leave him or keep him. My only advice is to educate yourself in these two areas and then after finishing the books make your decisions.

I have overbearing in laws who hate my guts and want me out of the picture. This gave me a good basis in how to handle them and then make my boundaries.

Maybe just tell him you need some space to decide. I hope you read them and come to terms with a peaceful decision regardless of the difficulty.

God bless.

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Awh I'm so sorry 😔
Honestly if he already has a 4 month old that means he has been cheating for a while. And I personally would end it ... A lot of times guys go back to cheating (but not all the time )

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I believe that a man is the head of the home. One home. I also believe that abuse and adultery are grounds for a divorce. That's my "religious" and personal opinion. I do know people who have made it through adulterous relationships. I'm not forcing my views upon you, if you are a Christian though, I urge you to take it to God. Our maker is the only one who knows what's in a man or a womans heart and therefore knows what's best. A human will give you erred advice (as you may even feel that I'm giving) so that is the best place to go. On a totally non spiritual note, I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that this is what you're going through. What an unimaginable pain. I've been cheated on by the father of both my children and it hurt in ways words could never explain. With that being said, if my now husband were to cheat and have a chils with another woman, I can only imagine  the heartache being worse. I'll keep you in my thoughts dear. Wishing you the very best as that's just what you deserve.

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If it were me I could never trust him again and know I would resent the other woman and child that will forever be a part of your life. I don't think I could take him taking my child to visit their brother or sister or bring them or the other woman to my house to visit in that situation. I would want to avoid the stress and bad environment for me and my child and leave. I couldn't fix a relationship if the other woman and child were shoved in my face daily and I was expected to let my child around them. Sounds selfish but dealing with an ex wife is hard enough much less the other woman. Good luck and prayers.

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I wish I had more support he broke me down the past couple years and no support from family and my mom is deceased so most of the time I wanna give up but can't do that to my baby I really appreciate your words of wisdom they really do help I thank you for that!!

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