How do you deal with a controlling person?

Question

One of my friends is very controlling of me. It's causing me major anxiety. If he doesn't like something I do, he threatens me. I'm terrified. He doesn't like me hanging out with anybody else except him. If I do, he lashes out on me. I work with him, so I feel like I can't get away from him. He said I'm the only person that he has, so that's why he's so weird with me. I can't deal with this anymore. When he threatens me, he says "I can make your life 10 x's worse." I truly believe he will do something to cause my life to be worse. Post something on social media, tell lies to someone about me, etc. I can't live my life the way I want to anymore because I'm completely controlled by him. If I try to get away, he threatens that he'll commit suicide.

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First off, report him to HR at your job right away. Then I would tell him that you are no longer his friend and if he tries to do anything crazy you'll be calling the police and getting a restraining order against him. Let him know that this is his first and only warning to stay away from you.

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He sounds like he's mentally unstable and in need of some serious therapy. It's not your jb to have to worry about him. Who knows what his deal really is or how dangerous he is, you need to distance yourself and TELL SOMEONE everything you just told us. I'm serious, this needs to be handled! Tell your manager, tell your friends, tell your coworkers, tell your parents, if you know any of his family or can contact them tell them... People need to know you are being threatened and are in danger. This isn't safe for you at all!

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Let him kill himself, he's a horrible person. Tell the manager, get a restraining order, get all evidence of his behavior to prove you're in DANGER !

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This person is NOT your friend. You need to cut ties, and file a restraining order if necessary.

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Tell him it's not a real friendship. You can't be friends with someone who threatens you. Talk to your employer, make them aware of the threats incase he follows through, I doubt he will but it's better to be safe. Also make your friends and family aware so if anything happens they know it's most likely from him. Try to distance yourself as much as possible from him and start seeing your other friends. Also, if he has said any of these thread via message or email, save them incase you need them in future.

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He needs mental help. I would've already gone off on this crazy bas*ard. Tell him you're not friends because he doesn't know how to treat a friend.

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Get a restraining order, warn people preemptively that he may say things about you, block him, leave.

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I think the way you deal with it is you cut them out of your life. Someone like that is toxic and can be very damaging. I wouldn't want the situation to escalate

How do you deal with a controlling person?

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