Help me

Okay. So. My fiance's mom absolutely hates me. I've been through hell this last year because of her. And I need advice on what the hell to do?!?!?!!!!

Okay so, while I was in the hospital having our son my fiance's mom was there starting drama with my mom. Because my mom was helping me! I was there all day and finally my little guy made his appearance at 6:35 PM. Well dad got to cut the umbilical cord and I got to hold my baby, somewhere in the mix of me and the doctors getting a look at him my fiance disappeared. He came back about a half hour later with his mom pitching a fit because everyone got to hold the baby except for the dad. She pitched a fit because she somehow convinced him I was going to be so hungry and needed food that she took him to the store! When there is a cafeteria downstairs with the same things they got.

Well after we got home and we were working on settling back in and I was still recovering from stitches (I tore in 4 spots) she decides to take it upon herself to just invite herself over any time she wanted. At the time we lived with my grandparents because we were saving up and on a wait list for our own place. My grandparents don't like people over especially if they don't know them. After finding out she wasn't allowed inside she started to spread rumors that our house was so "filthy" no one including family was allowed inside, which then turned into "if it's such a mess why do you have a baby living there" which then concluded to threats of having cps sent to the house because apparently I wasn't caring for the health concerns of my son.

Eventually we sat down and talked and had some plan worked out so she can see him with out making my every day miserable. Sooo. Dad went back to work which was usually 5 am to 1-2 PM. And I ended up getting a full time job from 4 pm- close which sometimes was 2 in the morning. I also picked up a weekend job doing dishes to earn a little more towards a place. Which apparently also was wrong of me to do. I was called a fat lazy ass because I didn't want to go downtown and get pizza with them, I worked very late and came home and took care of my son and I'm the licensed one so I also had to get back up and drive my fiance to work. I had a lot on my plate which to her was me making every excuse I could to not let her near my child. I tried explaining over and over why I was tired, why I didn't have to go see her and she responded that she could have my hours at work cut since she knows I don't do my job anyways. (I believe her there because most of the managers live in the little town that she does and if you know her it's not in a good way. It is drug related)

More time went by every day was filled with texts/Facebook messages/ comments/ and statuses filled with lies about me and the mother I am. She ended up not talking to us for a month and let me tell you I think it only stopped because I finally threatened to have the cops involved because she was harassing me. She recently got ahold of us and we got into another arguement because she was saying horrible things about me and my mom.

She got pregnant with my fiance when she was 14. She was already sexually active before she got with his dad. And she now claims how much of a horrible guy he is for sleeping with little girls and popping holes in the condom. This part adds in when I had told her that I will allow my son to meet all of his family including his biological grandfather. She yelled at me about this and told me "congrats gonna raise little pedos" all because I want my kids to know who they are related to they get called that. Rape isn't a joke or some game you can play. So this made me soooooo livid I was ready to go to her house and end her. But I ended up screenshotting the conversation on my laptop and blocking her in case she decides she wants to try and take me to court.

So through all this mess my fiance has never once told her to stop. Never expressed his feelings to her about the things she said to me and to him. And it is very very very very frustrating that he can't back me up when it comes to her. Even after she asked him to snap her neck since he causes her so much pain. What mom says that because they are hurt? I can't imagine telling my son that. But on the same page I see where he is coming from. Because she was the mom who was too busy running around partying and getting high and leaving her kids everywhere. So when he sees her he's like a little boy in a toy store. My mom had me when she was 16, yes. But she busted her ass working 2 jobs so we didn't have to live off of anyone or just be passed around. He was beat by her ex husband all the time while she was doing who knows what, and the day he stood up for himself and his little brothers and hit the guy back he got sent to foster care. She didn't leave the guy she left her kid. Didn't even bother to find out why he hit him.

Anyways that's my current situation summed up. Reason I'm posting is because I need to get all this stress off my chest. My son turned 1 on Thursday and we have a little girl due in late July. My first pregnancy was so relaxing and I had no stress at all. But this pregnancy has been filled with every emotion and stress this lady has put me through. And she is now trying to apologize since she's "realized she won't be allowed to be around her grandchildren and it hurts and it's changed her" but I'm having a hard time believing she apologizing just to say sorry. Since it's so close to my due date I think she believes shell be welcome at the hospital.

And before anyone says I should just leave him since he won't back me or anything. We have a great relationship and have been together almost 4 years. We've worked through a lot of things and I've worked with talking him through some of his childhood that haunts him. And we're looking at ways to avoid her negativity without saying something she will take and flip.

End of rant. Thank you all for reading. I'm not wanting attention I just want more support and if there is someone who has gone through this I know im not the only one