Had the D&C today, and shared on Facebook

I decided to let it all out. I need support from my friends and family, so I posted the below on Facebook this afternoon. I was nervous, because no one really talks about miscarriage on social media, but I want to break that stigma. This terrible thing happened, I'm very deeply affected, and it is a big deal. I can't hide from that anymore.

The outpouring of love and support is overwhelming. I'm really glad I decided to share:

We are 1 in 4, and I don't want to suffer in silence.

Last week, we found out that the pregnancy we were so thrilled about was not going to end with a baby in our arms. A baby we loved. A baby we bonded with. A baby we made plans for. A baby we picked names for. Instead, at 8 weeks and 4 days pregnant, after only finding a gestational sac during the ultrasound, I began to miscarry.

The heartbreak has been unbearable. I can't describe it. There are words like devastated, crushed, overwhelmed, traumatized, and shocked...they don't quite seem to fit how I feel. My emotions change daily, sometimes hourly.

I had surgery today to complete the miscarriage. I did not want to go that route, but my body wasn't cooperating. Thankfully, the procedure went well, and I'm recovering. I should be back to normal physical health soon. My emotional state, however, may take a little longer.

This kind of thing is rarely talked about, and that bothers me. If this post bothers you, I apologize, and you certainly are not obligated to respond.

I'm sharing because I need support. I don't want to hide from this. I don't feel guilty or ashamed, and I'm not going to keep such a huge experience a secret anymore. I appreciate your kindness and friendship throughout this difficult time.