Ill try to keep it short. Dh has screwed up before in the past. A 1 night stand while out of town. He told me about it in March of this yr. Weve been trying to repair and have been kind of doing well. Until last night...

Dh and i were bickering. Over really stupid shit. It wasnt even really that big of a deal. But he left the house at 830 to "clear his head". At 1 am, he still wasnt home. I start blowing him up and he says he fell asleep on the beach and he was otw home. The beach is a 10 min drive from home, but yet he didnt get home until 2. An hour later. He walks in with a bottle of Crown, and he was blatantly messed up. I let it all go that night, i didnt want to fight w him not being sober and he slept on the couch.

I tapped into his fb messenger, just to see out of curiousity, and he had msgd a girl ("associate" of his that i know of) at 130 (AFTER i had supposedly "woken him up") saying... "Whats up tonight?" 20 minutes later after she didnt respond he sent another msg saying "sorry i didnt realize it was so late."

He said he was msging her to see what was going on at the bar she works at. Which is messed up in itself, but dh was within walking distance of that bar (if he was really on the beach), so he couldve just walked over there instead of msging her.

I think he was trying to initiate another 1 night stand, failed and forget to delete the msgs.

I mean why else would a man drunkenly msg a girl at 2 am??

I think this may be the last straw for us.