how to not tense up for first time?

my boyfriend and i are planning to have sex for the first time, and we're both virgins. and i know i'm going to be nervous in the moment, and i've heard that that tightens us girls down there making it more painful and/or harder for the guy to go in.
how do i keep myself calm when it's about to happen?

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