Red flags and deal breakers

To the ladies that ignored red flags before marriage because most of them time, things were good, please don't end up where I am 6 months after your wedding
He was trying to call it off two weeks before our marriage and was convinced by several people that this was normal and it was just cold feet. 
We have good days but they don't outweigh the truth at the end of everyday. His family doesn't like me, they treat me and my daughter like outsiders. He never stands up for us yet instead treats me like I'm the problem. 
Today we had another fight. Very small. That basically he saw as an opportunity to tell me that this marriage has been hell and bondage since he said I do. 
Anyway. Moral or the story, don't ignore the red flags and don't go easy on any deal breakers. They're called these things for a reason.