When is helping out family members ok? When to stop?help!!

Cynthia
I have two small nephews who live in juarez, mx. They're from my husband's half brother. He completely abandoned them when He left his girlfriend for another women. I always had good communication with my nephews mom. She's really talkative and nice. Now, here's my problem. She got together with another man and hes hardworking and the children love him. But they're always having financial problems. He earns about 65$ per week. That's average in juarez. She's pregnant and doesnt even have money to buy underwear that fits. I know she's not making stuff up, I've visited them and they live in very precarious conditions. She wears clothes that belong in the dumpster. Whenever they need something I send them money, like to fix the air conditioner, pay rent, take kids to doctor, as far as this year has gone I've already given them easily $700 apart from clothes I've bought kids, cleaning supplies, baby stuff bathroom supplies like shampoo etc and school supplies. So recently she tells me all her moms and dads and even father in laws problems. They seem to need money too. I've once helped out his dad with $50. Its as if she expects me to volunteer and send money to them too. I know she isn't making up all the things that happen to them. But I kind of resent that she expects me to help them out as well. They're not my family. And im not rich to solve everyone's economical problems. we're not poor but Heck, we're not even middle class either. And it makes me feel selfish as well that I didn't help out her father in law when all of he needed like 30$. But my fear is if I help out once they'll always expect me to help out and it's a burden I can't carry. My consience hurts I feel bad, and I don't know if I should or shouldn't help. My husband also helps his mom, sister and sometimes my mom. I feel we can't with everything...also, i haven't bought myself anything in about 8 months. Sometimes I have something saved up for myself but then my nephews need something and I send them the money and I'm left with nothing. My husband grew more (hes 23) and his jeans don't fit!! And we never have extra money to buy him more jeans because we always feel bad for others and give other people our money and I have like 3 pairs of jeans...we have children of our own as well. Where do you draw the line in helping family members? Am I being selfish?? Thankyou!!!

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