Frustration.
This might be long so I'm sorry. Lately my boyfriend and I argue a lot.
Last night was pretty hectic and I just can't take it anymore. For every frustration he's going through, he tends to go against everyone.
last night we got home and we have two miniature pigs and two puppies (he wanted them so he bought them) that destroyed the house. I was annoyed but started picking everything up right away. He was already mad about something related to work. He sees me cleaning and scrubbing the floor and tries to help, then starts to talk shit about how he doenst wanna do this and he's worked all day and he doesn't have any patience for it. So I calmly said I'd clean it as I was doing in the first place. Then I step outside and he's drinking a beer with our neighbor and laughing. But once he comes in, it's a big silence between him and I. Doenst talk to me and doesn't tell me anything.
I work part time at Home Depot doing customer service, I'm also 21 weeks pregnant and yet have all this patience but he wants to talk shit to me and gets mad at me For something that the pets HE GOT, did. It sounds really stupid to me. I didn't yell at him, I didn't say a thing to him and was very calm about all this. Maybe like three days ago, he was picking up the puppies poop and started yelling at me about how I didn't help him and instead of doing what I was doing, why couldn't I help him. Meanwhile, last night I didn't ask for help once!! I even fell asleep upstairs bc of how mad I was and then he comes upstairs at 4am to wake me up and telling me to come downstairs to sleep.
The other day, it was the same thing. I told him I was leaving and he could stay home alone so both of us could get some space. He came back upstairs and started apologizing to me about how he shouldn't take things out on me. I start to cry and then he starts to cry and told me to "PLEASE DONT EVER LEAVE HIM" because he loved me very much and wanted to take care of me and the baby but he just needed help (physically) he just feels like he's doing it all alone.
What bothers me is ONE: don't get something you cannot handle and then also treat the pets like you don't want them, nobody told him to buy them. SECOND: don't take out your frustrations out on someone who has nothing to do with it. How is that I'm pregnant, I work and deal with all this shit? This isn't healthy for me and he seems to just focus on what he's going through rather than paying attention to The fact that I am also going through a pregnancy.
His kids come home to us today, and I have to pretend like everything is perfect between us while he's happy that he has his kids which live part time with him and I'm stuck over here having to act like I'm okay. How fair is that? I want opinions on this from you ladies. To me it seems like bullshit. For whatever reason, whatever we go through, there's no reason to take it out on people who are there for you the most.
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