Help!!!!

i've been dating my man for 5 years. we're moved in after 4 years. we dated since middle school. and i love him and everything.

lately he's been very mean towards me. any special even i have, he has to ruin it somehow. my birthday was on sunday. he ruined it, he didn't wanna spend t with me which made me sad. he came home and said he was leaving to friends. i was sad. he said rude things to me and it was so bad, i kicked him out. know that i have to be VERY mad to kick him out lol. 

and he went along with it. until my mother came out and calmed us. and i finally told him, he doesn't make me happy anymore. the spark is very dull between the both of us. i'm not a lovey person. it took me 2 years to tell him in person i loved him. i really wanna try, but he has to change. he's rude lately, doesn't really care about my feelings lately. i put my 100 into this and he only ous 50 it seems like. yesterday i tried talkin to him about the problem. so we can fix things. i told him i loved him and missed him. he said nothing. instead he decides to leave and smoke. i fell asleep crying. any advice ladies? anything is welcomed. i'm just an emotional wreck now.