Is not having children selfish?

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I am 23, and I do not want children. I've talked a lot about it with friends, and although they support me, I have yet to find a female that really understands how serious I am. A lot of the time, people tell me that I'm too young and that once my "biological clock" starts ticking, I'll want kids, but I know myself, and I know I do not and never will want children. My last 2 relationships ended because I don't want kids. I simply do not relate to or understand them or have any maternal instincts. I've worked hard to reach where I am in my career, and that is way more fulfilling for me personally than children ever would be. So what are your thoughts?

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Not selfish at all. Some people just don't have the want or desire to be parents and I applaud you for figuring this out before you bring a child into this world. I had a aunt who never wanted or had any kids and she lived a very happy life. She did spoil her neises and nephews and was a joy to be around.

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Personally, I don't want children because I don't really like them. Knowing yourself in that way is probably one of the least selfish things. Many people have children because they believe they should or because of pressure to be "normal" and they are mediocre or terrible parents. And in turn raise some possibly messed up, mediocre and or resentful people. Sometimes the best thing a person can do is not reproduce.

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I'm a huge believer in "if you don't want kids, don't have kids." Personally, I want kids one day but that is a decision I will make between myself, my uterus, and my future husband. If you don't want kids you are under no obligation to have any. Sure, you might change your mind. If you do, great. If you don't, great.

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Why would it be selfish? If it's the best thing for you, chances are it's best for the children you're not having, it's more selfish to have kids when you aren't ready or wanting them and not raising them well. Do what's best for your life! You shouldn't be having kids for anyone else's sake. And if you really need a more justification, at least you're not contributing to overpopulation? 😂 nothing selfish about that.

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I completely get this. 
My biological clock is ticking, and the thought of having kids still makes me cringe.

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Not it isn't selfish. People are weird when you say you don't want kids.

I don't want kids and people call me selfish. Why? Because I would rather give pets who don't have homes, homes.

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i say do whatever you want. no one WILL force you to have kids, its your life at the end of the day. 👑

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I think you're being unselfish choosing not to have children, if you don't want them then please don't have them it'll only cause problems for both you and the kid. However I wouldn't take any major actions to insure you dont have kids at this age, maybe in 10 years you'll have a different attitude and maybe not.

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Its selfish but just because it's selfish doesn't make it a bad thing. Even a lot of people that have children do so for selfish reasons. Majority of things we do in life is because we are selfish and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You're free to choose whatever the hell you want to do and should not be guilted into having children or feeling like less of a woman because you have no desire for children. It's your life. It's your rules.

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I think it's more selfish to have children because you are supposed to then end up hating and resenting your kids.

Your life. Your mind. Your body.
You and you alone get to make this decision.

Is not having children selfish?

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