bonding with a child

How do you bond with a child that's not yours ? I know you can't force it but when should it happen what if it never happens ? Any of you girls have gone through something similar or can give some advice on this 
Edit: the child is a step kid and is 5. 
I feel like I try so hard to bond and it just doesn't work.

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