WHAT ANNOYS A NEW MOM

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I've made a post reflecting off of the things I LOVED about motherhood, but I never focused on the things that annoy me. 1. Unwanted advice 
Okay let me be more specific. I don't mind recieving advice from other mothers about something because I clearly am doing this for the first time as oppose to other mothers who are experienced & I could use the advice preferably from FAMILY, BUT if I'm doing something a certain way that doesn't put my child in harms way and it works for him & for me, I don't need anyone barging in telling me "you SHOULD because it worked that way with MY BABY ......?

2. You're going to spoil him, put him down ..
This is the breadwinner !! The number one thing I hate THE ABSOLUTE MOST. Let's start off by saying every baby is different ! You have some babies who are born cholicy from the start who cry and cry & don't want to be put down .. My son *knock on wood* isn't that type of baby .. & don't try & denounce my way of parenting & try to say that I will turn him that way. His personality (yes because he has one believe it or not) will show you that he could care less if he was hanging out in his swing or in my arms .. As long as he's not uncomfortable he's fine. But if I choose to hold my baby 2346853235 hrs of the day , who cares ITS MY BABY ! The first few months a baby can't be spoiled, they don't know anything about manipulation. When they become more in tune with their environment THEN we could talk about spoiling. I'm on maternity leave at the moment . Pretty soon I will have to go back to work & my days cooping up with my baby in the house watching Nick will allllll come to an end, so the last thing I want to hear anyone tell me is "put him down" . They want me to give my baby tough love when he's only 2 months old . "Let him cry" 😳 umm no . I'm not going to teach my newborn that his cries are meaningless. Then we he becomes mute because of me ignoring his cries, god forbid - WHOS to deal with it ? Not anyone but hubby & I .. So please ... My list is very short as you can see but those are the things that bother me the most!!! Lol

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I'm sick of people pressuring me! "Give her some water" /"start her with food" /"I thought you'd be out enjoying yourself by now and having a babysitter"/ "you want me take her out for the day so you can relax". LEAVE ME ALONE SHES 2 MONTHS OLD 😂

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I started back at work almost a week ago and people keep asking me if I miss my baby. OF COURSE I FUCKING MISS MY BABY. what am I, dead inside? I miss her more than I can put into words and everytime people bring it up I want to cry. 
My MIL thinks that she is owed baby time. She tries to guilt trip him and she freaking told me and my husband to "plan for her to get to watch Gwen (our daughter) on Tuesday for a few hours." My husband was off work!!! So no way in hell, bitch. Nope. She told me in person and I just ignored her. Then she texted my husband and told him the same thing and that he could "sleep, do chores, mow the grass, whatever he needed to do for a few hours." Do not tell me where my child will be going or when unless you want me to punch you in the face 😉😄😇
Not very often and more in the beginning than now, but occasionally my husband would complain about getting up with her at night and I'm like "hmm... what have I been doing all this time?" He works midnights, so I have absolutely no help at night and that's fine. But on his nights off, uh yeah, he's gonna help lol 
I don't drink very often, or very much, but I know the rules and my pediatrician has confirmed it for me that as long as I can drive I can drink and it's not in my milk. I had one drink, slowly, over like 2 and a half hours at an anniversary party and I walked away and my SIL, who's pregnant, asked him under her breath "should she be drinking that?" I'm not stupid, I would not do something that endangers my child. But, thanks. Really. 
My mom doesn't mean anything by it. But she does it all the time. My girl "pathetic cries" when she is bored and my mom always says "oh she's hungry. Go feed her" no, that's not her hungry cry. I spend just about every hour of my life with her. I'll know when it's a hungry cry (she screams bloody murder when she's hungry lol) 
Sorry for the rant. I'm at work and having a bad day 😂🙄

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omg yes!!!! I absolutely hate it when people tell me that I got used to my baby being in my arms like omg no that's just how she is !! Every baby is different some babies from the start like to be held and put down they don't care and others always wanna be held ! But nooooo people like to blame it on the mom for teaching them to be that way 😡

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I was told by another first time mom (her son is 10 months old) that I'm spoiling my son (2 1/2 months old) because I hold him all the time and he sleeps on me. I'm a stay at home mom and I tried working but our sitter quit out of the blue so I got to stay home. If my son wants to be held and comforted then hell I'm going to hold him all I want. She also told me that since he's not in daycare that he's going to be antisocial and too dependent on me. When he's older and can play with other kids and is a bit more mobile he will be around other kids. And me being home with him and holding him like I do shows him that he can trust me so it makes him more independent as he gets older. She uses the honest company brand diapers that are organic and told me that my huggies diapers are filled with chemicals and things that can hurt him. Huggies are the only ones that haven't caused any rashes and the specific type I buy are non scented and have no chemicals. I checked and double checked. She likes to think she's giving me advice but she's really trying to tell me how to parent. She compares her son to my son all the time. Saying that since my son is quiet and happy and peaceful that he's going to be a little hellian when he grows up and her son is going to be a good kid since he's acting out a bit now (makes absolutely no sense to me). She actually bashed me for not circumcising my son. She also said I was crazy for choosing to not use medication for when my son starts to teeth due to the articles I have been seeing saying that oragel is causing problems. I have other ways to help with his pain. I can't stand her and the only reason why we hang out with her is because her husband and my husband are best friends. Sorry for the long comment but I can't stand people who try to tell others what to do as parents.

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I was lotus rally just thinking this. It's like NOBODY ASKED YOU PATRICE!

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My grandmother just told me today that I'm going to spoil him because I  pick him up the second he starts fussing. He's not quite 8 weeks old. If I want to hold him all of the time and make sure he's happy and feels secure, that's my choice.

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Breastfeeding did not come easy to me. As I was saying this to another mom. I said I need help with that and she said that's a natural process . You don't need any help.

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