I Hate Telling People My Due Date
I'm due in May. I'm also fat. I know this. I've lived this. I've lost weight. I just lost 20 lbs before I got pregnant. And I'm 7 lbs down from my last appointment just from the sickness and food aversions. I'm also already showing despite my weight and I wore maternity clothes for the first time today.
This is something I struggle with. But I'm a good wife. I love my son, and I was fat when I had him. This is also not a shock to my doctors. I'm generally healthy, and like I said, I had lost some before I found out I got pregnant. Oh and my husband loves me too.
But I went into a Lane Bryant to get some pj pants that would carry my plus size self through my pregnancy. Because of my weight, I look way further along than I am. And for the most part, people just assume I'm further along. Until they ask me my due date like the sales clerk did tonight.
She meant no harm. But the mortified look on her face and the "oh my god" she let out in shocked tone said what everyone says. I'm a fat whale.
And it just hurt. She meant no harm, but it's the second time I've walked in looking pregnant and people been embarrassed by my due date. I get it. I'm fat. And pregnancy has made me super sensitive. I've spent my life hiding my belly and my flaws and maternity clothes bring attention to my stomach.
And I'm not getting on here for attacks or weight loss advice. I know the risks of being overweight. I have doctors. I try to be active and eat well for the baby and myself. Being fat doesn't make some a bad mother or person. People struggle with all kinds of stuff. I just hate telling people I'm only 3 months pregnant. Because I look so much further along.
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