Need help with sex life!

Soo me and my partner have sex pretty much every time we see each other but it's just different to any of my ex's. I feel like he puts no effort it, we kiss a little bit then he will just put it in- usually hurts because i'm not even ready! I've even just stopped randomly and rolled over and he's been asking what's wrong and why I stopped! There's no like passionate kissing or good foreplay or anything so i've started watching porn like a crazy person 😶 and now I don't even want to have sex with him anymore and sometimes think about sex with other people......