Family

My family is driving me crazy. I only get 6-8 weeks maternity leave and this is our first child and we have a lot of family that doesn't live close. I have begun telling family that lives far away that wants to come visit that they can come no earlier than 2 weeks PP stay for 3 or 4 days plus 2 half days for travel. My grandma freaked out on me saying that she wants to come for 2 weeks that 4 days isn't even worth it and that I'm not going to be able to handle a baby and am going to need her help. I don't want to spend over half my maternity leave hosting people I want to spend it with my bf and my child getting settled and figuring everything out before I get thrown back into work. Am I being unreasonable to say you can fly in hang out that afternoon stay 3 or 4 full days then do breakfast and hit the road? I don't feel like that's unreasonable of me to request when I have my dad/stepmom, my mom, my grandma, and my bfs grandparents all going to need to do that. I feel like this first visit for everyone will be to meet the little guy.

Then there is my bfs mom.... (my bf and I have been together 6.5 years so his family and I are close) she is constantly saying things like have you named my baby yet then I say no and list off a few ideas I have had and she goes eww those are awful we are not naming him that your bf and I like this name better that's what we are naming him. I am short tempered and am really struggling not to snap and be like honestly your opinion doesn't matter the child's name needs to be something his dad and I like and if you like it awesome if not get used to it but I do need to like it so stop telling me what your naming my child. Then she has it in her head she is going to be in the delivery room and I don't want anyone but my bf in there. She says things like I want to catch the baby when he is born and I'm going to cut the cord and I'm struggling to find a way to tell her she nor anyone else will even be in the room for at least an hour after the baby is born.

Those are the two big issues I'm having right now I feel like everyone is just excited and that's fine but I also don't want to be guilt tripped into things.