My 21st is coming up and I'm torn! 💔😞
I'm turning 21 on November 22nd and I currently live by myself in NYC.
I've been a student here for about 2 years and I just realized I've spent my last two birthdays without my family.
My family and boyfriend had all planned to come up to NYC and make a reservation to the Beetle House Bar because I ADORE Tim Burton. However due to my mother being a vice principal and my birthday being so close to Thanksgiving, she was unable to get off of work to come see me.
My boyfriend is still coming to bring me home for Thanksgiving but now I'm torn between staying in New York and having an amazing time with friends and my boyfriend or going home to my family but not having that incredible night at an amazing bar like I have been hoping for. I live on an island, and live 13 hours away by car. If I chose to go home on my birthday I'd only have a day to fit in all the things I wanted to show my boyfriend who's never been before. I'd also have to be in a car for half of my birthday to get to a place that, yes has my family, but the restaurants, even if their open, are nothing special. Not really great, in fact. If I stay in New York I can spend my birthday not restricted, out enjoying the city I love and have as many drinks as I can at all the different and incredible places I've been dreaming about going. It'll also give me and extra day with my boyfriend, for my friends and roommates to celebrate with me and meet him. But all this fun without my Mother and Sister. I asked my sister what I should do and as usual she didn't give me any advice or seem to care much about what I chose. My mother and I have been in a really tight spot, arguing constantly about finance and my future. So my family and I have been pretty distant and yet my boyfriend and I can't wait till we see each other again. He said he would be upset if he doesn't get the extra day with me but he'll of course respect whatever my decision is. I have a feeling though my mom won't be too happy with me if I stay.
I don't know what to do. I thought I had made up my mind to stay but now my conscious is guilting me for not being with my family on such a special birthday.
I need some advice and opinions. 😞 My roommates say stay, do what I want, I can still have time with my family on Thanksgiving. My boyfriend says stay, I want more time alone before I go back to my family. I just want to have fun.
Please help!!! 🎂
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