Teen Pregnancy

A few days ago I made a post about Teen Moms and allot of people ended up responding to it and liking what I had to say. Then this morning I see an anonymous post and a 17 year old girl asking if she should try to conceive because she has PCOS and is worried about being able to do it later in life, but her and her boyfriend have been together for 3 months and he asked her if she wanted to try for one, so now she wants to give him one as a Christmas gift. And I just wanna address a couple of things. The teen mom post was meant for teen moms who have conceived and it was unplanned. And for the teen moms who didn't take sex seriously but now they're pregnant and they learned that its no joke. It was encouragement for them to not think their life is totally screwed and give up. But to push harder because yeah mistakes happen but it's the wrong time to be thinking about giving up. Now you're gonna be in charge of someone else's life and it's your job to make sure you provide everything this child needs and give him/her the best life. It was to help us get our minds off all the things people say... Like that we can't and won't be able to be good parents because of our age and that continuously bash us in other ways. When honestly we weren't trying to get pregnant, it happened and it was a mistake.  But the post was to help keep us all strong and to let the moms know yeah maybe it would've been better to wait but now we have to pick up and keep moving. The hard part is just beginning and we can't worry about what others have to say cause we have a job to do. We can prove them wrong by being the best parents and embracing our mistake, making the best of it. Show them how we didn't let us being parents way earlier than we expected change us for the worst but for the better. In no way was it saying you shouldn't wait until you are older and wiser and more stable. I do not think it is okay to be a teenager and intentionally be trying to get pregnant, your head should be in books 📚. Not thinking about baby names. If you have a choice on whether you can wait to be a parent or not and you're a teen you should not hesitate with your decisions. Your decision should be to wait because you are not missing out on anything by not being pregnant. You are just doing you and your baby a favor, you will have so much more to offer your baby when waiting and it'll be so much easier durning your pregnancy and when your baby gets here. In response to the 17 year old thinking about trying, I am not in any way trying to call you out. But I am talking to you from a soon to be teen mother point of view. Those parents that were telling you you shouldn't be trying intentionally to be a mom at 17, the ones that told you it's gonna be hard, they're 100% right. Babies are beautiful and they're blessings, but they're work. From the time I found out I was pregnant I have been busting my ass to get every penny I can for my baby. I have been doing overtime at work whenever I can get it. And I work at a fast food resteraunt. I had my job before I found out I was pregnant, so I have extra money saved. But when you wait and take the steps necessary like find a husband and buy a house and have a career and not a job, then you should think about pregnancy. And God will give you your baby because you did what you had to and you're ready for it. Even if you don't have a husband just a boyfriend. But your finances are right and you guys have your own place, then it'll be okay. Just wait, wait until you have accomplished something and became all you can be in life. Wait until you've given the world your all to decide to be a mother. It's not fun trying to cram all this planning into 9 months, at the same time working my ass off, in college, have to make sure me and my boyfriends place stay clean, and making sure I don't let all of this stress me out for the sake of my baby. And this is only the beginning stuff, because I'm only 7 weeks. But in a couple months think about me having to figure out baby names and decorate a room on top of those other things I've named. Do you see all the moms on here showing their engagement rings 💍 and saying trying to conceive after. Or even find out they're pregnant first and then their significant other proposed to them shortly after. That should be your goal, not to be 17 and pregnant. The fact that you and your boyfriend have been together 3 months and decided that you already wanna have a baby, that's not enough time to make a life changing decision. I'm 18 now but at 17 I was learning to drive, I was running for class president, playing volleyball and basketball, getting ready to graduate, touring colleges, I was having fun.You thinking about being a mom is you cutting your life experiences short. You should wanna explore the world 🌎. Without experience what life knowledge will you have and be able to offer to your baby. Being pregnant isn't easy so I know being a mom isn't going to be a walk in the park. I wouldn't trade my baby for anything in the world. But I'm not gonna lie to you, I wish I didn't have to spend my 9 months grinding so hard. I wish I had it to where I'd finished at least 2 years of college already so I could be making some type of money. Then I wouldn't have to work so hard and I could enjoy being pregnant a little more. Cause i don't know about these other teen moms but for me right now it's work work work. Even when I'm not at work I have work. Something always needs to be done. There's no me time. Then you can't rely on other people, you can't even rely on the man that gets you pregnant. If he wants to leave he's gonna leave, you don't know if he'll feel like it's too much and not wanna deal with it. So you can't count on that. And you can't count on other people always being there for you, cause they don't have to. When they decide to go they can go they don't have to stay and be there for you. But guess who's gonna have to deal with it regardless.. You are.. Your gonna have to provide for that baby, your gonna be pregnant regardless of who is there for you and who's helping you. It's gonna be your baby, you can't give it back when it gets hard or if you end up having to do it alone. It's gonna be your baby, not your parents or anyone else's. And I'm just trying to get it through your head that it isn't all fun and games. I'm not trying to scare you but let you know that it's real it's not a joke. You gotta work your ass off. I wish I would've enjoyed being a kid a little more. Cause now I'm having a kid and it's like no turning back. From the positive test on it's real as hell. There's fun sometimes, but it's work too. I just want you to know what you're getting into before you do. And I don't think you should do it, just be 17. Girl get a bucket list, make some friends, tell them to make a bucket list and y'all all just have fun.