Being Told That I am Being Selfish

So I am high risk bc of gestational hypertension that is now leading to preeclampsia. I've had one of the shittiest pregnancies ever but happy that my daughter is healthy. On Sunday I will be induced at 38weeks and my doctors are saying if her lungs r strong we won't be in the hospital more than two days. Today I am talking to my husband n informing him that I don't want anyone (not even the grandparents) to hold her her first week of life. Like I kno ppl r going to be excited but I didn't go through 9 months of hell for my baby to be passed around like a dinner plate as soon as she comes out. Now I am being called selfish by him n my mother. Like I kinda don't care if I am bc i feel like I have a right to be especially bc we live with his family n I don't want no one thinking they can just pick her up any time that they please bc she is in the house now. Than my husband wanted to pull "she isn't just ur daughter" card🙄. Also no one has their tdap shot except for my parents bc they r RN n LMP nurses but they live back in my home state. It just sucks bc no one is seeing where I am coming from n I feel like now I have to appease ppl with my child. Like now I just want her to stay inside even longer so I don't have to deal with this shit once she is out. I kno I may be doing too much but no one understands or is trying to understand y and I just want to cry but i hate being emotional n ppl think it's just my pregnancy hormones getting to me bc it's not.