Should I leave?
We have been married for 6months. In that time he has attempted suicide 4 times. The first time was a week before our wedding which was a red flag but I went ahead with the marriage. He fights treatment and even tries to get me admitted to deter the attention from him. He comes back saying everyone thinks he is normal but I sound like I have this diagnosis or that diagnosis. Last night I called the police to intervene when he threatened to shoot himself with one of his dads guns. Our argument started with me saying we needed to go to his family Christmas dinner and he didn't want to. It escalated and he got irrational. I blocked him away from them and he tried to take the car and leave but I took the keys. He has specifically told therapists and family he is not actually suicidal and he never had these problems of suicide, violence or lying until I entered his life. (Which is false hearing the stories of him and his ex fiancé) I thought he was searching for pills and started calling the police. (He slit his throat in our front yard last time so I wasn't taking any chances) as I was on the phone with the police he got angrier and threw a bottle at me and missed but made a hole in the wall. The dispatcher asked me what the noise was and things got worse from there. What originally was a suicide prevention call became a domestic violence call. Before any of this I tried calming him down by listing off everything I love about him and trying to get him to do the same but he just listed off things he hates about me after each good memory. (All his good memories he listed were sex stories of us) he tried taking the spare key and driving off but I jumped in the car put it in park while he was driving and took the key. He ran back inside and locked himself in. He came to the window and poured a bottle of pills in his mouth and walked away. I went through a different door and took all the guns I could and locked them in a different room he couldn't get to. He had locked himself in our room at this point. I went outside and waited for police. When they got there he came outside holding his hands out saying I hope you are happy this is going to ruin my life. The police took pictures of the hole in the wall and I filled out a witness statement. I stayed with our friends for the night. He called them and asked them to bail him out. He ended up getting his dad to get a bail bondsman to bail him out. He is not allowed back at the house or near me until after court. I don't know when that date will be. This is just one of the outbursts he has had. I by no means am saying I am a perfect wife I know I can push his buttons and antagonize him and I know I have my things to work on. However I do not believe under any circumstances that this is a normal or acceptable reaction. I don't know if I did the right thing but I feel things would have been worse if I hadn't. I don't want anything bad to happen to him but I couldn't handle the situation alone.
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