should I be as upset as I am??

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I need to vent and ask if what happened today should've upset me as much as it did.
Some background: my family lives out of the country so during my whole pregnancy I don't get to be close to my own mom. This is my first pregnancy and I'm super excited.
My in laws are staying with us during the holidays and today on 17w6d I felt my baby kicking for the first time. It was an AMAZING feeling . I was driving the car, my husband sitting beside me and my MIL and FIL were sitting in the back. I suddenly felt some little flutters , like butterfly wings in my stomach while stopping at a red light. I told my husband enthusiastically that I can feel the baby kicking. He was so excited too. My MIL suddenly told my FIL: " they are way more excited than I was with my first"
I suddenly missed my mom so much... I know she would've been soooo happy and would've understood how excited I was at that moment...
My mother in law is a kind and nice person and I never had a problem with her but I really didn't expect that... 
should I be upset? I mean it did ruin a moment that I've been waiting for since I found out I'm having my baby...

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I wouldn't take offense to it at all. People say things and don't even realize what kind of affect if can have on others.

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It wouldn't bother me at all unless she was being snotty about it. Honestly for me it's the other way around; I feel like people are more excited for me than I feel lol 😂

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Idk what to tell you, I understand you bec.. my SIL seems to be more happy and excited that her friend (not best friend) is pregnant!! And she touches her belly when the baby moves.. and talks about her and her belly.. and she haven't even said something nice to her nephew.. or even caress my belly.. and when my baby moves I get excited and sometimes she's around and have Never had a  nice reaction or even say something nice..😔

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Honestly with my hormones raging, and my mother being out of state, I would feel the same exact way. Every little thing tips me off and makes me cry because I think about my mom. So i really really understand. She didnt mean anything by it. But pregnancy hormones mixed with already missing our mom can set us off over anything. I really dislike my mother in law, so actually most things she says get me upset and make me miss my mom... even before i became pregnant.

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What was the tone of voice?  Can't really judge without being there. If she said it in a snotty way then yeah kinda sucks but don't let anyone  ruin your pregnancy.

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Well she is a mother in law lol. But honestly it's ok mother in laws can say things much more worse than that lol. It's ok you should have continued making more enthusiastic remarks lol to show her you really are more excited. Lol. Don't let anyone "ruin" celebrating the greatest blessing ever. I hope your mom can come stay with you for a month during delivery and all! My mother lives far so I can relate! Best wishes.

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In my honest opinion I think you're overreacting. Maybe you were more excited than she was with her first and she was making a statement not passing judgement. I'm 37+6 right now with my first, and I really couldn't tell you when/where I was when I felt the first kick. Different milestones are more important for different people. But hey, hormones get the best of us all sometimes.

should I be as upset as I am??

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