Cremation-was it helpful?

Question

Sadly, I had a miscarriage just a few days ago. I was 13 weeks along. Being that far along, it came out as an intact, very small baby. It was tragic, but in a way beautiful to see how our baby was forming in the womb. 
My husband and I are considering cremation for the remains. My reasoning is that I feel that I would be able to cope with the loss better if I knew where the remains were. Knowing they were with us and close to us, would put my brain and emotions at ease. 
At the same time, being an emotional creature, I'm worried that having the remains with us may backfire and actually make recovering more difficult for us.
Has anyone else tried cremation? Did you find it helpful? Or was coping and recovering more difficult with having the reminder of your loss so close by?

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I lost my twin boys at 20 weeks 1 day, we had them cremated. At first I wanted to bury them so I'd have a place to go be with them but my boyfriend really wanted to cremate them. After all, I'm glad I decided to have them cremated. I have their urns placed on a dresser by my bed and I can still stand by the dresser and talk to them without having to drive to a cemetery. Also, if I need to let out a cry I can hold their urns tight and lay them on the bed with me and kiss them. It's very comforting for my boyfriend and I. I also have two necklaces I ordered online and had the funeral home put a little of the remains in them and my boyfriend has two bracelets also with the remains. They're with us everywhere we go I feel like if we buried them, I'd want to be at their headstones 24/7 but now I can actually be with them 24/7.

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We didn't cremate but we did bury our son. I was 9 weeks but he still came out intact with 10 fingers and 10 toes, eyes, nose and a mouth. 💔 I was originally going to do what's called "From Ashes to Diamonds" but it's extremely expensive. It's like $7,500 for a tiny little diamond. So my husband bought me a ring instead that is a blue diamond to represent that he was a boy and so I can forever have him with me.

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Both my babies were sent for testing so I didn't have that option. I think having your baby cremated and kept with you would be special. You could always bury the remains too and make a memorial garden. I wear a necklace to honor my babies and keep them close to my heart.

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I was only 9 weeks and I chose cremation. It helped me soooo much With grieving. The nursing home was so nice they ended up waiving the $5,300 cremation fee (prices are crazy!). They treat it as an actual loss like it is unlike some other people who just see it as losing a pregnancy not a baby. Definitely follow your heart and if you want a keepsake I definitely recommend creation. This is my baby's urn..

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Thanks ladies. My hubby and I did decide to go with cremation. I think it will help to comfort us knowing our baby is near by. It makes me feel better knowing I'm doing what I can to care for my baby.

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I really like the idea of cremation.  They have so many neat thing in the world now too if later on down the road you decide having an urn is too heartbreaking you can always get a necklace heart or angel wings made out of the remains to hold close to your heart.

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I was 17 weeks & lost our twin girls. I felt relief when I got to hold the urn in my hand. I didn't expect that but it was good for me.

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I lost my baby at 14 weeks and I had him cremated. I can honestly say it has bought me so much peace. No one wanted me to cremate him, but it was truly for the best. Follow your heart. Having the remains can be soothing. You'll always have your baby with you.

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I delivered a stillborn at 22 weeks and had my son cremated. Before I went to the hospital to be induced, I stopped by a funeral home to ask about prices for the cremation and burial. Turns out they wouldn't charge us for the cremation bc he was a baby. We had a small service, the cremation, and his remains were given to us in a small urn in the shape of an angel, also free. I love that my baby is home with us and it has helped me move forward and heal from the loss. We set up a shelf in the living room for his memory box and urn. I love that I can see him everyday!

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