Would you be mad?

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A little backstory. My husband and I were both actively ttc when we conceived both our kids. He had been wanting kids for so long so when they finally arrived I expected him to be really hands on and that's not what happened. He didn't get up at night which was acceptable he works 9-5pm 5 days a week. 
Anyway, our daughter is 2 months getting used to her routine. She was up every hour last night so when my toddler woke up at 6am I begged my husband to get up with him and give him breakfast (it's his day off). He said no he was tired so I did it. My husband proceeded to sleep until noon and when he came out I told him to watch the kids that the baby wasn't due a feed for two hours. He told me no that he was going to work on his dirt bike and he never agreed to "take care of the kids" today. I was fuming and explained that they are HIS kids and he needs to watch them. He told me no that I can sleep all I want but that he's leaving so the ball is in my court. Then he left to the garage. I'm so mad. Our marriage is great 99% of the time but him sleeping all day day in the weekend he's off and not spending ANY time with the kids is our biggest fight topic. He never comes to the park, or swimming or music class, nothing. I've talked to him at length about it and he always says he'll change but he never does. What would you do?

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He works 9-5, he damn sure can help with the kids. Whether it be during the night or after work. And especially on his days off. He's perfectly capable. I would nip that shit in the ass real quick. Give him an ultimatum.

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Couples counseling. He doesn't need to agree to watch his own kids, he's a dad and that's his job. He's being a lazy ungrateful asshole! You're a better woman than me because I would've stormed out and left him with the kids to fend for himself. He's taking you for granted and not seeing how much you do. He needs to understand how to work as a team. Sometimes the only thing that can help him understand is hearing it from a third party.... counseling now!

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That's awful!  I've been there with my exhusband!  I dk how he can watch you stay up all night & not get any sleep and not feel bad enough to at least get up with your toddler or let you go back to sleep.  What a jerk!  Either talk & get him to listen...or maybe counseling.  Tell him you desperately need help/a break.  & remind him that if ya'll were to one day divorce he'd have to do it by himself every weekend or every other weekend!  Good luck & prayers!

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I work overnight 11-7. I come home and i prepare breakfast for my hubby and I, my son wakes up around 8(sometimes he's up by the time I get home), my hubby works daytime. I stay up with my son all day and sleep when he naps. When my hubby finishes work, he takes over, i get a solid 1/2 hours of uninterrupted sleep when he finishes work, and then I get ready for work again. It's all about teamwork, we both made this baby. Lol.

I think you just gotta be persistent about what you want out of him. It's not always gonna be 50/50, sometimes you're gonna only feel like giving 10 and he's gotta be there to give 90. Being a SAHM is just as much of a job, if not more, than a 9-5, he gets to clock out, you stay in your work environment all day. I told my hubby, if you're so tired of working, we can switch, you be housewife and i work, he said no thanks lol, so instead I got a job too, now we split the duties evenly. best of luck to you.

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