Before you get your panties in a wad, read my story.. I love my fiance and our relationship has never been about a ring or materialistic things.. this is just a fun story to share and see if anyone has any other funny proposal/ring stories to share bc I always see the ring posts and have to laugh to myself a little.

So, I knew I would be getting engaged on Christmas. We've always spoiled our gifts to each other since our first Christmas. It's just too exciting. And he made a big to do about clearing his browser history one weekend so I couldn't peek, so I knew he had tried to order a ring online. I love amazon.com so I wasn't too concerned. Well, I love this man but he is crazy. He ordered the ring from China bc that's where he gets a lot of tools for work. But to me, ordering something from China is kinda like "here's my money, I hope i get what I bought in 3 weeks..." so I would never spend any real money from someplace I hadn't tried before.

Anyway, a week before Christmas, this package shows up from China... labeled 'jewelry" and that was my first moment of "ugh omg he bought my ring from China..?" I was just really skeptical at that point.. maybe he was just kidding about the whole getting engaged thing and it's a necklace or a watch or something. Idk! But instead of it not being a big deal, I suddenly REALLY wanted to see it. I had to know!

So that night, we work opposite shifts, he comes home and opens it while I'm asleep. And the next day when I wake up... you would think it would be hidden... but it was actually perched right on top of my planner. Not open, but it was literally sitting where I would HAVE to see it before leaving for work.. I was LIVID. Did I mention I was 32 weeks pregnant at the time? Hormones flying all over the damn place! "And he thinks he can just leave a ring on my stuff and I'll just *THROW* myself at him?!" I stewed all morning at work about it. On my lunch break when I came home, it was gone. It didn't even come in a ring box!!! It came in an earring box on one side! 😭😅

Later on he told me he knows I peeked and said that he was disappointed bc it looks so gaudy in person. We agreed the main flaw is how tall it is.. but the stones are gorgeous! And I confessed how mad I was that I thought he was proposing without actually proposing and he's sticking to his story that he left it out "accidentally" but either way he made the official shpiel when we exchanged gifts and I, of course, said yes. It's soooo not about the ring. I've never needed a ring but I think people were pressuring him to do it now that we're expecting. Either way, we can't officially tie the knot for at least a year bc I just qualified (and therefore got our daughter automatically enrolled) for our state's health insurance.

Anyways! Without further ado, can't have an "ugly ring" post without pictures! It's not a total failure but it's definitely not my style at all...

P.s. check out our REAL engagement gift in the last pic 😂😍a dishwasher😍😂

Edit:

I knew there would still be a few complaining about this post.. but to clarify a few things: I couldn't care less if he wants to get me a new ring or not, but he is insisting that he will go to an actual store for a real ring and that this was just a "promisary ring" 😄 I've tried to show him examples of what I like and even pointed out his mother's ring to him. It's simple and small and that's what I like about her ring. But he wants to figure it out on his own and I have faith in his choice as long as he sees it in person first! 😂

Secondly, in regards to not getting married so we can receive benefits from the govt.. screw you, lady! You don't know our financial story and I shouldn't care enough to share it with you but I'm going to anyway. We aren't leeches, we both work very hard for what little money we do make and we both pay taxes in that money every year. He is an airplane mechanic and I work in a preschool center. My work doesn't offer insurance at all, his work has very crappy insurance that no one has even heard of. Our obgyn requires a prepayment for their office visits (ultrasounds and labs NOT included) and we were told we had the highest payment they had seen with insurance. It was very close to what we would pay with no insurance at all. $3000 compared to usually around $1500. And after being approved for my state's insurance, we had all that money refunded to us. We were paying roughly $300 per month for insurance that didn't cover anything. This was actually the first year I got coverage in over 10 years and found it really wasn't worth the extra cost compared to medical bills without insurance. I also feel compelled to share that I had applied many times before during hard times and was denied even when only able to work part time. I was making probably half of what I make now and I didn't qualify! They expected me to find affordable insurance while only making $600 a month! In any case, the reason pregnancy qualifies me now is bc govt assistance is there to help hardworking people and families.. in the state we're in we have a lot of people who abuse the system, so I get why someone would jump to that conclusion if they didn't know me. But I do feel like I've earned right to that assistance. I'm not a lazy bum who just doesn't want to pay for insurance, it's just not reasonable for us to do so with such little coverage.

Besides, the main point of that comment was about that being our "excuse" for not getting married, and we both agree that for us, marriage is just a piece of paper and the legal side of it. Marriage is really about commitment and we don't need to make it legal for that. I think we're doing the right thing to get our family started on the right foot. We will be able to buy a house much sooner than projected and our daughter will be the one to benefit the most.

#rant #35weeks

And as for posting anonymously, I have a job in childcare. I know several pregnant women at any given time of any year and I happened to be one of them right now (and also a few coworkers from each of our companies) I don't need anyone I know on a professional level to know me on such a personal level. 😉