Relationship(s)

This is something related to the sex post from a few days back, but a bit broader. I'm wondering how other moms are feeling about their relationship to their partner since becoming a mom. My guy and I have been struggling to reconnect. In fact, things between us are super tense, we're short with one another, not affectionate, or really loving. It's not helpful that we have been renovating a house for the past 2 years and it is just now getting finished up--this stress has definitely complicated things and I do often wonder how different I/ we might feel if that weren't happening. How have your relationships to your partners changed? What about with other family members? For example, my mother in law has been driving me nuts, for no real reason, just her presence, since my son was born...For those moms with more than one child, does this stuff tend to mellow out after the first year? I would love to know how others are feeling about this stuff. Thanks in advance to all who share.