Heated with soon to be ex-husband.

I'm just going to get straight to the point. My husband and I are not on speaking terms due to him letting his first child's mother not letting him see him and we have been at each other's throats because of her and when I asked him to come home and chill for awhile his family he starts to complain about how he is not trying to be no stay at home dad, the man's job is to provide for his family and be able to see his child from his first relationship between him and his ex girlfriend who is receiving between $650-700 a month for the child that they had together but she wants him to see the child on her time and still then refused to let him see the child but to make this more upsetting to me is that I've been in their child's life since he was born and now she doesn't want me to have nothing to do with the child because of some bogus bullshit lie both of them her and my fucking bastard ass husband had made up about some police or sheriff was looking for me and they had called her. First and foremost I DO NOT have this chick as a contact for anything that consider her as my emergency contact whatsoever, Second, my husband agrees with her in making sure that I'm not around the child anymore (😐😒😕😬) so that he can see his child in for which has me to the extreme beyond pissed off with him, third, he gets late night phone calls from other females when we are together and at night, we argued about that because how in the hell your going to tell me that you have issues with females but your ass is getting late night calls from a female, fourth, he never calls to see how the child we had together is doing let alone spend any time with him when we are together and he plays favoritism very heavy between both boys he favors the child him and his ex girlfriend had more than with the child we had together. And when he do calls I don't answer cause I'm tired of him bitching about how much he hates being with our family, how much he hates our landlord, and he hates living in PA where we live at. I've been trying to be that wife for him, like on the first day that we got together things that I love doing which is cooking, cleaning, love making, spending time together and hanging out as a family plus making my own money (was raised to never depend on a man, but was teach to hustle like one.) I let my guard down and gave my heart and soul to this man who does nothing but put me down and belittle me in for why me and him get into arguments a lot because I refuse to let you belittled me or put me in a category with your first child's mother because she won't let you see the child you two had together but I don't have him down on child support and I'm trying to lift some of the burden off of him but all he thinks is that I'm trying to start a argument with him when I tell him true facts about us women and men together when it comes to children but he thinks that all I want to do is argue with him cause I told him that he is letting her tear us apart from one another but he doesn't see it but wants me to set up a appointment to see a marriage counselor and I have but I'm already calling it quits because I'm tired of being treated this way because of his first child mother, the late night calls, not calling to see how our child is doing or him not spending time with our son, and the constant disrespect towards me and my other children. I'm not going through this again for my first ex-husband was like this along with the physical, emotional and sexual abuse and I've told him about this in the beginning of our friendship which turned into our relationship with years down the line marriage. I'm tired of crying every night. Divorce is in progress.