so I have a right to be hurt/upset?

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My fiancé and I have been trying to have a baby for almost 3 years now with no Luck. Doctor says there is nothing wrong with either of us I it's just going to take us more time for some reason. My fiancés sister has two kids who she doesn't take care of, her mom does. Her and her mom live with her grandma and she is with a guy who is just awful and no body likes. Her grandma doesn't even allow him in the house so they live in her car on the property. He has no job and they just found out they are pregnant. I am so beyond hurt and frustrated because there are people like me who have been trying so hard a  deserve a baby and people like her and this man who should have never became parents. She leaves her kids with her mom with out asking, never tells her where she is going or when she will be back. These poor kids always ask where their mom is at. Am I being crazy or do I have a right to be upset?

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Why does everyone think that there fertility issues has anything to do with someone's ease to procreate... you getting mad at your future SIL is not going to get you pregnant any quicker so id suggest just focusing on your TTC journey and letting go of that anger and that might create positive vibes for you guys and you might fall pregnant. Good luck

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You can't compare your situation to hers...

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You have a right to have feelings. You're only human. It's not fair but that's life. You can be upset, but my advice is to not dwell on it because it doesn't change anything. Try to stay positive and that's usually when things happen. (:

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Totally know how you feel. My cousin and his wife have a little boy who is 1, always dirty, gets fed crap food, doesn't develop properly as they spend 0 time with him, just ignore him, just generally not very well looked after and they have just announced they are having another one.. me and my husband have been TTC since our wedding last April and still nothing. It feels very injust doesn't it? You just have to hold you head high and know that when your time comes, you will do the best you can xx

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Hold up! She has every right to feel the way she does! If someone she knows is not great parents , doesn't take care of their children then why the hell should they have another child? Y'all were missing her point ! 
Anyways girl, I know where your coming from trust me !! Me and my husband shared the news that we was trying for a kid to his dad and come to find out 4 months after our wedding his little sister (teenager) is pregnant and it hurt the shit out of me because I wanted to give them the news that he was going to be a grandpaw but no his 17 year old sister who still lives at home with mommy and daddy , bf is in jail because of murder and has no car for herself is pregnant!!
Yet I'm over here with a car , nice job , my own house , a savings for my child , baby items , baby room to make a nursery , etc etc etc !!! 
I was hurt but I told myself god has a plan for me and till this day i wait for that plan. Yours is coming. Stay positive

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You're being so selfish. Who are you to say they don't deserve to be parents?

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I KNOW my fertility has nothing to do with her. That is not my point. My point is she doesn't take care of the two children she has and she is living in her car with a man that is a sack of shit. It hurts me that people like her have no problem getting pregnant and people like my fiancé and I who great jobs, a stable home and love for a baby have the hardest time conceiving. I am not blaming my fritillary issues on my SIL. The situation just irritates me.

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I'm jealous because I'm waiting to have a child until I'm in a better place financially because having a baby is a lot of responsibility, but my aunt's 16 y/o son got a 15 y/o pregnant. Neither of them have a job, everything's being taken care of for them, my aunt's probably going to do everything while the girl parties and pampers herself and her son might look for a job, maybe, maybe not. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad they have a good support system and the baby will be taken care of by somebody. 
Although sometimes being responsible sucks, in the end id rather work for what I have and I'll feel more accomplished providing for my child, not sitting around while others do.

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It's normal to feel jealous but u can't hate on someone who's fertile. It's wrong to be upset at someone for procreating. Suck it up. Life isnt fair but eventually it will happen for you. Your fertility problems isn't everyone elses. Stop being salty and just be happy they don't have to go through the struggle you do trying to conceive.

I was like that until i literally said fuck this, i guess not not made to be a mom. And what do you know, im a mommy to a 6 month old babygirl. I feel terrible for the jealousy because being a mom is such a beautiful thing. It changed my life forever and i would never want someone to secretly despise me or my kid just because they cant conceive.

so I have a right to be hurt/upset?

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