PSA on skinny shaming
I know this topic has been beat to death but I really feel the need to clarify something: it is not acceptable to skinny shame people because "us big girls have been facing it for decades!" nor is it acceptable to think skinny shaming is not a valid issue just because it is not the most prominent form of body shaming.
I was absolutely disgusted with my body all through high school and I was bullied and brought to counselors offices for more times than I can count because people thought I had an eating disorder. Sometimes I was forced be watched when I ate because of my weight and everyone wanted to make sure I was actually eating because obviously no one could be my size and NOT be starving themselves 😒 and yet everytime I bring up this issue I had faced on here I get ridiculed and told that skinny shaming does not exist in a western society. Just to clear things up for you ladies, when I say how horrible being skinny shamed makes a person feel it is not coming from a girl who had the body of a VS model who was getting butt hurt over nothing, it's coming from a girl who looked like this:
I had NO curves whatsoever. I literally looked like a 12 year old boy. I was 5'5" and weighed in around 90-92lbs. I ate like it was going out of style, I even started lifting weights 4 days a week for an hour before school and ate 7,000 calories a day to try and get a "more womanly" figure. I was overlooked by every guy, never went on a date, was never kissed until I turned 18. People thought it was funny to aske how my stay at the concentration camp was, I was mortified of my body. I self harmed and sunk into depression and contemplated suicide many times.
Luckily when I joined the Army and hit 19/20 puberty finally kicked in and gave me a body much different from that in high school. It gave me a body most people are jealous of.
I'm now 5'6" and 109lbs. But the sad thing is that while I am very proud of how I have developed, I still get moments where I am destroyed by my adolescent insecurities. My current relationship with my SO is hard because I have such a hard time loving myself and I still look in the mirror and will break down in tears. I have a hard time believing he loves my body. Everytime I see a girl with a big butt I hate myself. Everytime I see a curvy girl in a tight dress I hate myself.
So the next time you think it's ok to brush off skinny shaming as a valid issue, remember that most girls dealing with this problem don't look like I do now, but look like I did 5-7 years ago. And those issues keep with us no matter how our bodies end up turning out. Sorry for the long post but I needed to get this off my chest.
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