Does anyone else's husband need to be romanced?

I can't believe I'm putting this out there, but I have to know if I'm the only one or not. It's driving me crazy and I constantly feel guilty. My husbands libido pales in comparison to mine. We both have very stressful jobs but I know the best way to relax is to BD. He stays so stressed that he can't get into the mood. And if it isn't stress, it's a lack of romance, so to speak. I want to be *taken* unexpectedly, I don't need to have candles lit and told how beautiful I am and slowly worked up. I am ret ta go. At all times. He is not. This has put a major kink in our adventure of TTC. The frequency isn't lining up with my alleged fertile times. I feel guilty because I'm obviously upset and bummed when I don't any, then he feels bad and guilty because he isn't delivering. He is on medication for his thyroid which was supposed to help with some of this. He says he feels unattractive so it's hard to get in the mood and I don't know how else to make him feel attractive. He is all I crave; he is perfect in every way for me and meets my needs well...when he can. We tried again last night and it wasn't happening, so I spent some time on him. It worked momentarily but as soon as we moved on to the grand finale, all was lost again so he was embarrassingly over it so I just cuddled with him telling him how much I love him.