Need advice!!

So my DH and I got married in 2013(both virgin). I make myself tight at the time we BD. So he was not able to get in me and it took us a lot of time. But I am trying to improve on that but he says he doesn't like it when I fell pain and do not enjoy it so subconsciously he started avoiding sex. We are very close emotionally and have no other issue in our relationship but I do want us to have a great sex life also and moreover we are TTC for an year with no luck bcoz we do it so less. Just don't know how to mend these broke pieces.