Anyone else have jealous problems?

Question

so im a jealous type. i shouldn't be but my past relationships made me what i am today, a jealous girl. so i have a boyfriend of 2 years now.. i been very jealous lately because he works with girls.. I know he's loyal and he doesn't flirt or nothing because i spy on him already lol But still im so jealous i want to kill a girl that tries to talk my man.. he's mine not hers! ugh my life sucks because i'm so jealous... i'm not insecure either im very confident of myself. i go to the gym  and do pilates. still😔anyone else?

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Jealousy most definitely stems from insecurity.  You might not be insecure about your body, but you are insecure about something.  Jealousy is a very unattractive trait.  You might have the best body in the world, but if you are controlling and jealous at every turn, no guy is going to put up with it for long.  It just isn't worth it.  So, you need to look inward to figure this out (not outward at your body).  And, if introspection is something that bothers you, then you might need some professional help to figure this out.

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Jealousy and possessiveness stems from insecurities and lack of trust and control. You aren't insecure about your body you are insecure about him and his faithfulness otherwise it would not bother you. If you don't trust them then you shouldn't be with them or anyone else. You have baggage that you need to deal with. It's not fair to the person you are with that are this way. People get tired of it. No one wants to be blamed for what someone else did to you. Nor accused of cheating etc. You can't control him or his environment. That's not fair to him. You can't control who he talks to or who he works with etc. You need to calm down or he's gonna cheat just to get away from the behavior to spite you. If he's not happy he's gonna look for happiness somewhere else. Maybe some therapy will help with your issues. Most schools, colleges, churches, woman space etc offer free therapy. I hope things get better.

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You ARE insecure if you're that jealous and have to stoop so low as to spying on him. Jealousy is not cute and many guys find it a huge turn off, especially if you let it affect your behavior. He works with girls, girls will talk to him, he will talk to girls, you need to just get over it. It's apart of life and there's no way you can 100% cut him off from all female contact. You need to just learn to sit back and calm the hell down or you'll find yourself single very fast. You said you trust him, so you need to just back off and let him actually live his life without constant surveillance because that's just crazy and crazy is never a good look on anyone.

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Been with my guy 4 years we have complete trust. We both have friends of the opposite sex. Mind you my guy best friend is gorgeous. It took him a bit to get used to him. He got over it. He's been y best friend over 25 years. He got over it. He's got a girlfriend and a kid. My guy was fine with me going to a party with my bff and coming home at 730am. My guy works with strippers, djs, dance clubs, etc. I'm fine with it. He can go to strip clubs, watch porn no biggie. I've even gone with him to a strip club with his friends. I bought him a lap dance. We had fun. It was no biggie. I don't try and control him. He has his space to do as he pleases and i do too.  But we love and respect each other and would never do anything to jeopardize the relationship. We love and support and encourage each other no matter what. Just relax or things aren't going to last.

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I agree. Therapy helps.

Anyone else have jealous problems?

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