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Wow ladies... what a nice way to try and help her out of this depression. I'd be willing to bet she has severe ppd. She has reached out for help or uplifting words and just received more negativity. I hope it's not your boyfriend making you feel this way because even as new mom's we HAVE to take time out here and there to care for ourselves. Don't let ANYONE make you feel bad for taking a shower or eating but please realize it's not the babies fault. You need to make a drs appt and tell your Dr what your feeling and they will help you. Also the people in your life making these comments are toxic and you need to put them in their place. Being a new mom is hard and it's even harder if the people around you are just trying to tear you down. Maybe reword the last little bit of your post if you are looking for help in this community. Also it DOES get better as baby gets older.

Wow. 1. Thats horrible that people tell you that.2. It gets better my sons a month old and hes gotten better.3.talk to your boyfriend tell him you still need his affection too and you've been feeling alone.4. You may want to speak to your dr. Cause you could have post pardom depression.5. Its kind of horrible to speak about your child that way. How would your baby feel if they ever were to find this post...

Ok, well 1st I think you need to go see a dr Hun. Your baby is new and being a mum for the 1st time can be very overwhelming.I felt very similar to how you're feeling with my son. (He's an amazing 8 yr old now) things do get easier with help and support.I think you may have postnatal depression, some people show symptoms a lot quicker than others & for some people it's more extreme. nothing to be ashamed about it's very common & nasty words from people don't help. It's good that you're able to say how you feel even if it is on here.Please see the dr though, I left it and became very resentful to my baby and partner, was full of anger & hurt & confused because it was supposed to be the best thing ever being a mum.Don't set expectations to high also. As new parents we are all gunna stink sometimes an be pretty unkept  it's just part of being a new mummy, try to relax a little no one cares if you haven't showered and if they do well fuck them!Ask your partner if he could watch your baby while sleeping and have a relaxing bath with candles ect, play some happy music, get outside when the sun shines. Ask friends to come over & help, express yourself to your friends an family, they shouldn't judge, if they do they ain't worth it.Tell your partner how you feel but not in anger (he's probably feeling a little different to you right now)You're not a bad mum an whoever said that is harsh and unrealistic. You've been a mum for 4 days. It's the hardest job in the world so take some credit for yourself. Be kind to yourself.I cried and felt overwhelmed, lost and hopeless because I was exhausted when my daughter was 8 days old, me an my partner had an argument and both sobbed because being a parent to a newborn is tough but it will be rewarding I promise. Just give yourself and your baby time and please just speak to a health care professional they will be able to help. Take care and try not to stress too much just take it one day at a time x

It sounds like you may have ppd hun.... I'd schedule an appointment with your doc.Talk to your boufriend about what's bothering you, and try to enjoy your baby. Don't worry, it does get better.

Your boyfriend should be taking care of the baby just as actively as you are. You need to give yourself a little time for you every day. For me, I make sure to have time to take a hot shower every morning after everyone has breakfast. If he has time to play video games, then you should have time for a shower. Also, I agree with some of the other comments. Consider reaching out for post partum depression. It's hard and a big life change, but you should get help if you are feeling down and resentful. Good luck! 

wow.... just wow

wow.... You have that type of feeling towards your child? somebody that you carried for 9 months? ouch.. you should speak with a counsoler I couldn't imagine saying that about my child..... 

Can you get a shower while dad is hanging with the baby? You need to take care of your self while you recover from childbirth!! It's a big deal and your body needs time to recover. You need to be eating well, napping, showering, relaxing, nursing (if you choose to) etc. These things will help your mood, and you should follow up with your OB and let them know about your stress levels. They might be able to help you too. Good luck and don't bother with the "wow" comments. People don't understand unless they are experiencing it. 

It'll get better I promise. It's a new life you're adjusting to but once you get the hang of it you'll be a great mom. ❤️ your baby needs you and I'm sure you're taking care of him/her just right. Talk to someone near you about what you're feeling.