Help!

Ladies I can't be the only one, but are you ever in the mood for really thought and tough sex? Like hair pulling, ass slapping, hard core f*****g? I have been for the last week or so and every time I try to go at it with my man something happens and he gets too excited too quickly and then I end up unsatisfied and frustrated. How do I stop this from happening because he feels guilty and embarrassed which he shouldn't and then I'm just hornier and want it rougher the next time. I don't know what to do!! Help!!