Is it wrong for me to want my SO to come to bed with me?

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Every night it's the same fight. He waits till 12 to walk the dogs and I wait for him to come to bed with me. I'm still waiting. He finds 100 things to do before he even walks them. Like snack in the kitchen, finish a video game, smoke a bowl. So it's 12:30 and I'm still awake. I have to be up at 6 and get three little girls ready before I drive 15 km out of my way to drop his dd off before work. All I want is someone to hold me after a long day. Why is this always a fight? I'm so tired but I don't sleep well unless he comes to bed with me. What can I do to curb this? A part of me feels like he just doesn't care about how I feel or love me enough to consider my feelings.

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My last relationship was like this, I got tired of fighting. Listen to me, get yourself a body pillow, sleep with the room cool & take either Advil pm or some melatonin. It will help you sleep, don't stay up because your the one who will be exhausted in the morning. Soon he will realize that your not waiting on him no more, and he'll change.

I been there done that, and wish I took this advice sooner.

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My husband want me to come to bed when he does. It's super rare if I do. After the kids go to bed, it's me time. He can hangout with me if he wants, watch a movie and snuggle, but I'm not going to bed.

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Couples rarely go to bed at the exact same time.  It's just not practical.  And honestly it's not his responsibility.  You're responsible for your own sleep.  Make your own routine and follow it.  Let him come to bed whenever he's ready.

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I'd take a sleeping pill and go to bed. My sleep is too important to me to be worried if my husband is in bed with me or not. He can find his own way to bed he's a big boy lol

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If he's not ready to go to sleep... he shouldn't have to come to bed.
Don't know if there's actually more to this problem or not

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Idk. I mean if its that important to you then it seems you're with the wrong person. Sometimes people have total different sleep schedule. You cant force something on him.

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I dont mind going to bed without him. However if we have sex planned and i inform him im going to "bed" and he waits 2 hours later when I'm done gone in a deep sleep but yet he still wants some i get irritated and usually ends in a fight. No honey im not turning over so u can get some real quick. Should been here 2 hours ago.

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I'm sorry you're going through that, it's the same way with me and my SO he never wants to to spend anytime with me he's always playing his video game or on his phone or whatever I'm getting really tired of it and I'm not the best person to give you advice because my SO won't do a damn thing to change. I suggest talking about it with him about it calmly and maybe explain to him how you feel and maybe he will be more than happy to come to be earlier but I don't think it's wrong to want him to spend time with you and cuddle with you at night.

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I go to bed way after my fiancé but I always lie in bed w him. Maybe he can lie with you until you fall asleep then he can get up

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Compromise, maybe tell him cuddle time and talk time in bed is important to you and pick two days a week that he comes to bed w u?

Is it wrong for me to want my SO to come to bed with me?

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