How often should married people have sex??

Question

My husband and I go past 5 days before even having sex sometimes, we never do it more than once in a day. I have a high sex drive but I don't know what's wrong with him besides suspension of him cheating.

I'm aware we DO NOT HAVE THE SAME SEX DRIVE

I JUST WANT ADVICE NOT CRITICISM PLEASE

I'm aware we DO NOT HAVE THE SAME SEX DRIVE
I JUST WANT ADVICE NOT CRITICISM PLEASE

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just because he doesn't wanna have sex doesn't mean he's cheating. also, there's no set number for how many times a married couple should have sex. i can go weeks without. i'm not an affectionate person and i have a low sex drive (which could actually be a problem) every couple is different.

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Have you considered the chance nothing is wrong with him and he just has different sexual needs? 🙄 Just because you have a high sex drive doesn't mean he does.

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I'm not married but me and my boyfriend have sex if not everyday, every other day. I think the longest we go without sex is max like 4 days. Sometimes we'll go twice in a day. But don't just jump to conclusions. Every couple is different and you should just try talking to him to see if something is bothering him. Communication in every relationship is key.

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My husband and I haven't had sex in like... Two weeks? I don't even know. But we have a 6 month old so that plays a large part in it. But even before him, it was maybe twice a week give or take. He has a super high sex drive and mine is practically non existant. He could do it six times a day and I could probably never have it again and be fine. I wouldn't assume that he's cheating just because he's not jumping your bones every day. I love my husband and would never be unfaithful, I just don't feel the need to have sex very often.

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Sex drive is dependent on the person, there isn't really a "right" or "wrong" for anyone.

My husband and I thankfully match up well. We have what we call "sex marathons" and pretty much have sex for like two weeks straight and then we will go a week or two without. Then we start all over again.

Communicate your needs! Also, don't underestimate the importance of "building" sexual tension. Maybe take a break but tease him like crazy. Our sex life is great for us because I loooove our "weeks off" because we tease each other, flirt, sometimes we even make each other wait because we know the pay off will be great.

Maybe he needs more time to build up than you do. Talking through it will help immensely. Not having sex every day or having a 5 day break wouldn't make me automatically think he is cheating...

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We've been married for almost 12 years...we usually don't go more than 3 days without and usually it's every other day, sometimes 3 days in a row lol. I'm not really into multiple times a day and my husband needs rebound time lol. Idk it's different for all couples and even then we have times when my sex drive is higher or his is higher. But I guess if you consistently want more you either have to take care of yourself or find ways to get him worked up more often...teasing, sexting? But I wouldn't consider once a week abnormal or consider it was because of cheating unless there were other signs.

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We have sex everyday  and if we skip a day it's a lot for him .....  and every time we have sex it feel likes it's our first time it just keeps getting better and better .... talk to him find out what he likes 😏

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My fiancé and I don't have sex every day. It doesn't affect us. We have an emotionally connection and sometimes we rather watch tv lol

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No one can answer this for you, it's subjective.

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Except for times when religiously prohibited, like during and around menstruation etc. We have sex when we are in the mood. I checked my charts and realized some months that's almost everyday or more than once in a day. I certainly prayed for and wanted a high drive spouse because a low drive spouse is much harder to deal with if you have a higher drive. There are not so nice words for high drive women. I personally like the close intimacy but get a rest break every month during my body's natural "cleansing".

How often should married people have sex??

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