Any mommas out there that work and dad is a SAHD?

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I don't go back to work until the beginning of May but when I do my husband will be staying home with our son. I'm a RN and make more money and have better benefits than he does so it just makes sense for us.  Even though he's a great dad and more than capable, I'm starting to get nervous!  He does a lot but I still do a majority of the care for our son. Like he's never done a bath solo or put him to bed by himself.  And the longest he's been alone with him was 2 hours when I had my postpartum appointment. Our plan is for him to start taking over more towards the end of the month so he can get a hang of things.  And maybe me leave the house some so I'm not tempted to step in!

I work 3 12hr night shifts a week as well so he will be caring for him all night when I'm at work and part of the day while I sleep.

Anyone else been through this and have any tips or comforting words?!

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It's the same thing as a new mom. He needs to just learn just like we have before

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Do a trial run. I am lucky enough to have a Dad that wanted to look after his grandbaby while me and hubby are at work. Mind his youngest child is now 30 but he said he could do it. So he started coming over more and hanging with the baby. Then  when it was getting close to my return date we did a full trial run. I got up as if I was going to work got her ready brought her to my dad and left like i was going to work and went back home. Could not sleep but my parents  house is less than 2 miles away. I called throughout the day but they were fine. By the end of a few days we knew what he needed, what worked  and what didn't and she was getting  comfortable at their house. Maybe you could do the same. You work  nights so I am not sure where you would go but I am sure  you could think of something.  Just a suggestion. That method worked  for us. Made me feel a little better.

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He'll get the hang of it. I normally work from home but earlier this month I had to do a 2-week stint in the office over an hour away, so my SO and I switched roles and he was the primary caregiver. The weekend before he asked about everything I do and got up with me to watch the morning routine. I told him things to expect. I was nervous but they were both just fine. The first day was rough because baby was confused but soon enough my SO had his own method and tricks.

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Well what you should do is put him through  training  camp like the next few weeks show him your routine. Explain different little tips you found for the baby like what cry means what.  Whike you are around let him do more so you can assist and correct if need be and see that he is capable which I'm sure he is. Its hard to let anyone else be over the little one so don't be nervous or feel bad about being nervous.

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Your husband will be more than fine! If he knows where everything is and any 'tricks' that you know to calm your LO down or know when they are hungry or tired , that will make things easier. I think it is wonderful he is willing to looknafter your LO- and you really don't need to worry. My husband is at home every Wednesday- when I went back to work after my maternity leave after our 2nd child, he hadnt spent more than 2 hours alone with both and the baby slept most of that time. So i did wonder how he would cope the first day alone: absolutely brilliantly. I even came hone to a cleaned house with supper being cooked!

Any mommas out there that work and dad is a SAHD?

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