I think I love two men

I am very sad and confused because before I met my husband I met an amazing guy whom I really liked and I didn't know he liked me too. I met my husband later and thought it was a good decision to marry him he is a good man. My marriage wasn't what I expected and my husband ended up being one not affectionate at all not romantic, he doesn't like to kiss or hold hands and he doesn't know what fore play means. For him having sex once a month is ok and that is not at all good with me, I tried to talk to him several times about it in order to help him get better at it but he would care for a week and then go back to the way he is.