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Hello! I m 34 and have been going through moments lately where I've been stressing out about ttc. My husband isn't ready for children. I am with him on that, but I get moments where I have the desire to have a child. The part that stressss me out is that my husband and I have been together for 10 years now. We have had unprotected sex throughout our relationship and never got pregnant (a bit of history I have PCOS and was diagnosed at age 17). My stress and fear is that if I haven't conceived at this point I fear it will never happen. My dilema I face is...where to start? And by that I mean how do I go about knowing whether or not my husband and I can have children. Do we both see a fertility specialist together to get tested? I've changed my primary doctor and have not had an opportunity to discuss it with them. I just want to know if my husband and I even have a chance so I can start to process the information. I've already started making changes to my health and have opted to taking supplements to regulate my menstrual cycle and my ovulation pattern, if needed. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Thank you! :)

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Hi we are the same age, and I highly recommend that you be proactive in the process. Speaking to your OB, read up, and get educated. Not all women are lucky to be fertile into their 40's: you do not really know how much time you have.

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If you are 34 then I would suggest making plans to get your fertility checked NOW.
At 35 your fertility starts decreasing rapidly and even if you or your partner are not ready just yet - it makes sense to know where you stand fertility wise / egg wise / sperm wise.
Maybe check your Insurance to see if you are covered for Fertility treatments and if you aren't, change now so you have time to sit out any waiting periods. 
Good luck. ☘️

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I would start with your ob/gyn. The fact that you've already been diagnosed with PCOS should be the green light for your gynaecologist to go ahead & send you for blood work. One thing i would recommend is to double check what your insurance covers before you get too deep into treatment because it can get expensive fast.

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I read Taking Charge of your fertility and it gave me a ton of hope and info about how normal J was. I was always told I had PCOS, and it's not true. Charting helped me realize that I was normal; that I wasn't always having sex at right time and that I was ovulating/ just a lot later than cycle day 14!
I agree Though with others: get yourself armed with info and know more about your cycle to effectively combat issues earlier if they come up.
Good luck!!!!!

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I'm 38 and thought I've been trying for years lol after speaking in detail with ob and reading this book, taking charge of your fertility, I realized we weren't really "trying". I started with ovulation kits , preseed, and supplements (fertilaid, dhea, acupuncture next week) so they say you have to been really trying for six months then see a specialist. Good luck to you. We are on month two so fingers crossed 🤞

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If you go to the doc you need to say you've been trying for a while before they'll consider you for fertility treatment (in the U.K. anyway). There's no harm in getting tested. You're young yet so have lots of time. So try not stress about it. But sure you might as well get tested just to put your mind at ease

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Thank you all for the helpful comments. This gives me a great start as to what I should be doing at this point. I agree I have to start now so that at least I know. I always told myself that I would not have children past 35 years old. But, I can't predict the future and I don't know what the cards hold for us. Thank you again! :)

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Yes I would go to your OBGYN, get some labs, get an HSG test to look at your uterus and ovaries, and get your man's sperm checked (which is usually a first suggestion anyway). Plus the usual diet, exercise, supplements (prenatals, etc), tracking your BBT and CM (basically learnibg your cycles), and educating yourself by books and websites. Best wishes and baby dust to you! PS-I'm almost 34 and have PCOS so I feel ya!

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