orgasm with SO

I only have an orgasm when I masturbate alone. I am deeply in love with my SO, but he doesn't listen to what I like sexually. Once we had an intense conversation about it, and he said he would listen to my directions. That night he gave the best oral I've ever had(climaxed and squirted) & the sex was amazing (did not climax). That lasted for about a week. Now we are back to him not listening to what I like. Plus, now he keeps begging me to squirt again which only adds pressure and blocks me mentally. He is so focused on trying to make me cum that he forgets all the things I actually like. I think he watches too much porn, and it has messed with his mind lol. Like, I don't care if the chick in the video orgasmed off that special move, it's not what I LIKE.  He doesn't seem to get the importance of foreplay. He just wants to go straight to the V. Ugh, it's so frustrating because he is a geat guy, but he simply isn't listening lol.  Anyone feel my pain?