Is it better to be honest and not put up with people's crap or kind and passive?

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My husband and I were having a debate. My husband is very passive and calm. He lets people walk all over him and hurt him again and again and rarely stands up for himself. He's such a kind person, too kind. He's lovable and sweet and such a nice guy (not sure what he's doing with me... 😂). I think it's better to be like him.  Calm, kind and forgiving.  
Im the type of person who will call someone out on their bullshit. I don't tolerate people hurting me repeatedly and if someone does, I usually remove them from my life, depending on how much they've hurt me. Sometimes I come off as bitchy (or as my husband says "feisty"). But in the end, while my delivery might be bitchy, I stand by my convictions and I don't let people walk all over me. My husband says it's better to be like me. Someone who doesn't put up with shit and stands up for their beliefs and convictions, no matter what.

What do you all think?

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I think it's situational, gotta know when to pick your battles.

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"A closed mouth don't get fed"😂😂🤔

Personally I find it easier to speak up. But it depends on the situation. Really, majority of the time I speak up🤷🏻‍♀️😂 I'm pretty blunt, but I don't mean it to hurt people's feelings (unless they intentionally hurt mine🤷🏻‍♀️) most of the time I'm just trying to help🤗🤗😌

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I think y'all are a good mix to balance eachother out 
I'm kind of like your husband for the most part until someone really freaking asks for it and my SO will eat you alive in public.

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Why not both?

Do no harm, but take no shit

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I think it's better to be a mix. As no one will fight for you like you. But it's better to do it calmly and respectfully then to flip and lose control. It's better to not stoop to others levels but not good to be a doormat. U need to find the happy medium.

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I don't put up with people's crap. Especially now that I'm pregnant. I have a very short fuse now. 😂😂😂

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Don't put up with crap. You can be nice, but there's a point where I'll definitely snap and I think that's okay. Don't push my buttons. Lol

Is it better to be honest and not put up with people's crap or kind and passive?

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