Am i wrong if I want to explore?

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So i have been in a relationship since past 8 years. Its been my only relationship and the guy is 5 years elder to me. We have had a lot of issues because i was very young when we entered the relationship. Probably arnd 12.  And now i have entered my 20s n college n stuff.
All my friends go out on dates have crushes talk to them and stuff. And it just makes me curious..i dont want to cheat on him and stuff..just want to know how these things feel like
. My bf dsnt understand these feelings and thinks i ll cheat on him..but i just want to explore.. AM I WRONG HERE? I even have a crush and I just cant even ask him for a coffee date bcz i feel my bf would think I m cheating on him  :/
 coffee date -more inclined to be his friend bcz hes a good guy plus he is not interested in me.. And is shy so dsnt talk much in front of people.  And breaking up is not an option 
UPDATE : 
I told my bf about this long time back. and he himself said that "he wanted to set me up on a blind "date" and observe from behind.. I found that creepy. And i want to go out on a coffee date meaning as his friend.. And i would tell my bf before. Plus i m curious about these things. About the experience of meeting n talking to new people..not "dating" them as such. Relationships are tough..and I am already struggling in one. 🙄

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Well, going on a coffee date with someone is cheating. Just break up with your boygriend and explore other things. Otherwise you will always think of those things.

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Sounds like you need to break up

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Put yourself in his shoes....
That would hurt my feelings extremely bad if my boyfriend said those things to me. You have chosen to be with him he isn't forcing you to stay with him. If you are having those feelings it's best to end things. I would be pissed if my boyfriend asked another woman on a coffee date. That's almost worse then sex to me.

Not trying to be rude, but you have to make a decision because that isn't fair to him. Honestly if my boyfriend was saying these things I'd say fuck yourself your single!

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If you're in a serious relationship and your partner doesn't agree with your need to "explore," doing so would be cheating. Time to break it off.

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If breaking up isn't an option that you need to deal with always wondering. You don't go out with a crush because you want to explore while having a boyfriend... That is cheating.. So his feelings would be correct. While there is nothing wrong with you wanting to explore. However, you can't keep him on the side while you date other guys to answer the questions in your mind. That isn't fair to him.

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My bf has never been in any other relationship except with me. Im also the only person hes ever slept with. And i thought he would want to explore or want to see what else is out there. Since he has never experienced anything like that before. Plus his best friend goes to parties and goes on dates and has hook ups etc. But he has told me flat out that our relationship is amazing and he is more than happy with me that he has never thought about wanting to see what else is out there. He only wants me. And hes 25 and im 24. If you really loved your bf being with just him and not experiencing all that other stuff would be enough.

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Lol why is breaking up not an option? If you were in love with him fully and whole heartedly you wouldn't want to see anyone else.

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So you want to date other people, you need to break up with the person you are currently in a relationship with. That's how it works, if you really loved him you would have to urge to experience strangers. Plus you already said you had an attraction to this coffee date guy, wanting to hangout with him is extremely inappropriate.

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Getting coffee with a guy friend and getting coffee with a crush and calling it a date are very different and in my opinion, if you consider it a date, you're cheating. How would you feel if he said he was going on a date with another girl? I know how this feels. My husband and I have a four year age difference and went out from the time I was just turning thirteen. We are 28 and 31 now, married 6 years, and expecting our first in September. He went to school two hours away for two years while I was still in high school. He was done and then I started a four year college. I had guys friends but my boyfriend was the crush I talked about with my friends. I've had lunch with other guys as friends and my husband knew about it. We trust each other and know each other SO well at this point. Is experimenting with other guys worth losing all the trust and time you've spent together? If the answer is yes, break up. If you see yourself marrying him and having a life together after school, stick it out. I've never been with another man and he's never been with another woman and that in itself makes our bond feel even stronger. I don't feel like I missed out on anything.

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If this is that overpowering break up and go be free. If you don't do it now you are going to eventually, and will more than likely break his heart

Am i wrong if I want to explore?

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