Okay! Diva Cup Trial And Error

Okay. I'm mid period and thought I'd try out the diva cup. I for some reason thought it would be easy to insert it for the first time in the shower. Boy was I wrong. So much squating and 30 mins later I just decided to finish my shower and get out. When I was drying off I thought of lubricants. So I looked up if coconut oil is safe for your cup and every site was saying yes so I was like why not. I was so happy to finnaly get it in. (I think) lol Ima a thicker girl so my thighs touch, and both labia lips touch. The only reason [i think] the cup is in right is because I thought it was in wrong and took it out. But to my surprise, it had already started to collect some blood and was completely clean on the outside walls of of the cup. So I guessed it was in right. But I was also heasitant because I can feel what I think is only the stem because my vagina lips are squashed together by my thunder thighs. Idk if it's in incorrectly or if I just need to cut the stem. I may also add that when I make bowel movements as if I were to be using #2 I can totally tell it's up there. Can someone please tell me if it's normal because from what I've heard you're not supposed to feel it AT ALL. What I'm doing right now is dealing with the stem situation for a good hour or two. After that I'm going to take out the cup and see if there's any blood that has leaked. If none has leaked I'm going to take that as the cup was in correctly and I just need to cut the stem. But I would really like many opinions so please answer. Educate me please lol 😩😩