Why do parents not understand the stress of school?

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I'm 16 and currently my grades are all above 90's (except math 🙄). I work hard to maintain my grades. I also do a very taxing sport, and coach it as well! I train in my sport over 5+ times a week for completions and stuff, even though I've only done two. I come home stressed and tired and in need of a good nap. So after my homework I do so! My mom calls me lazy and such for that. And that she should be the one that is taking a nap because she works too jobs. But I don't think she understands that school is hard and stressful.

What are your thoughts?

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I'm not saying this to be an asshole, but your life is so easy right now you have no idea. Your mom sounds like she gets that and wants you do be successful. I don't think lazy is the right word, but it sounds like it sucks to be your mom working two jobs. 
   
Maybe consider how she would feel wishing she could be napping, while working two jobs, and coming home to take care of a house and family. Does that make sense?

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Yes, school and sports are hard.
But so is being an adult, working two jobs, raising a family, paying bills, taking care of the house.

I'm sure it hurts to be called lazy when you feel like you do a lot. But look at it from her side. You say parents don't understand how hard school is; but you honestly have NO idea how hard adult life is. You will one day understand how much easier you have it right now.

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I dunno, most people I know are tired pretty much all the time. Life is exhausting, maybe you should each learn to cut the other some slack. Also, I now have this stuck in my head.

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Just a suggestion - let mom take a nap now and then, try to help more around the house, and try to calmly explain that her use of the word "lazy" is hurtful.

Also, if you're feeling stress, try to cut back on any non-essential things you do (TV, social media, etc) so you have more time for what's important for you. Maybe try to go to bed earlier rather than nap.

Whatever you decide, it's important to put yourself in your mom's shoes for a bit. She's probably jealous of your free time to sleep (everyone loves a good nap!) and very stressed out by all the things she's dealing with too.

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School is hard but having two jobs, raising kid(s), paying the bills, cleabing the house, making meals, doing grocery shopping, and dealing with a bunch of other stuff are more stressful than going to school and playing/tarining. I have been a kid once, but now as a young mother of two under 4 I can appreaciate what my mom did for me. Adults, in general, have to deal with far more issues and problems everyday than an average teeanager who has loving and caring parents.

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Well times change. I did all that at your age plus worked part time. I think it's all exhausting. Being an adult and responsibilities and everything is very demanding and tiring and school n shit is too. Sometimes as adults we forget bc we would go back to the days we where in school in a minute! B young again and free and have fun. I'm sure she is just stressed working two jobs can't be easy

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Look, I've been there. At 16 I said the same thing, my life was so stressful. And for my age? It probably was. Especially since I was diagnosed with mental health issues and switched medication so often while trying to maintain my active life style. The best thing to do is push through the exhaustion and wait until bed time even if its earlier because you're so tired. When you're an adult there's no more napping. I worked two to three jobs and completed night school. Then I worked two jobs. Now I'm a stay at home mom and that adds even more stess because let's be real, it's more than playing with babies all day. Life is stressful. It's a part of it. You have to push through it. She is only trying to get you to understand that naps aren't much of a thing in the grown up world and you're awfully close to becoming one. Good luck!

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I think they often just forget. When you finish with something and then move on, you kind of forget how annoying and difficult it was. I really can't remember high school but I know it was terrible. Also because when you're a teen, things that may not be difficult for an adult are difficult for you. Your body and mind is growing which is taxing in itself. And then there is the fact that there isn't always a whole lot if responsibility for kids in school. Yes you need to do your homework and have extra curriculars, but paying the bills is hard when you're not wealthy. And one slip up won't just get you a bad grade, but you can potentially lose everything you have. But I agree school is hard and that should be recognized by parents.

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Honestly...you think it's hard now? Wait until you get in college. Also keep in mind that your parents have been in your place before and do know the hardships

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Because it's easy. You're really in for it when you get out into the real world. I mean I'm not saying it's not stressful now and it's Tiring. But you still have college to go through(assuming you'll go) work, bills. Then you'll understand and rethink about this and want to be back in high school where you have it easy.

Why do parents not understand the stress of school?

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